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A lot of my friends in class can be touchy with our female friends,
But I'm completely crossing lines if I were to even get within their personal space.
We've all known each other equally long, since day 1 in college, gone to mostly the same parties at campus etc.
The exception is when we're drunk but even then there is a difference.
I think it's an indication that I seem creepy(?).
I don't have any idea what it is I would have done to seem creepy, but I can't really come up with any other explanation...
Is there any other explanation?
Could it be that they've just gotten used to the others' touching, and that it's so unusual for YOU to do it, that it seems creepy? Are you careful enough WHERE you touch? or for how long? Do YOU look uncomfortable when you do it?...or desperate? or creepy? LOL
I have alot of women in my life that often touch / run their hands over my arms and shoulders when talking to me. As for me I only do it with SO's thats where it starts and ends.
not sure if anyone has mentioned this, but touchy-feelyness could also be attributed to culture, men of european descent (Italians, French, Spanish for example) tend to be more touchy feely than North American men, generally speaking
not sure if anyone has mentioned this, but touchy-feelyness could also be attributed to culture, men of european descent (Italians, French, Spanish for example) tend to be more touchy feely than North American men, generally speaking
^^^^
Agree with darren's analysis of touchy-feelyness in men.
A potentially interesting aside question: is the same also true of women though? (i.e., European vs. North American, etc.)
I was just reading a thread about flirting and I didn't want to hijack it, but I was wondering something.
I'm a woman and I know women can be very "grabby" when it comes to our friends, both female and male. Though for me personally at least, I'm way less touch-y with male friends or associates just because I wouldn't want to give someone the wrong idea. (I'm married.)
What about men who touch a lot? Not necessarily grabbing the female friend's knee as the post I'm referencing said, but just sitting close enough to be touching sides, leaning against the person's leg once in a while, hands brushing hands, etc. As I said, with women I wouldn't think twice. What about with a man?
Is something like that always flirting, or are some men just more physically affectionate than others, even in a platonic way?
I have known a couple of men like this and I immediately got an "ooh, that was a flirting kind of thing" vibe but logically, I realized that they were happily married/in no way a match/couldn't have been interested for [insert_reason_here]. Maybe it's just instinct that would make a woman think a man touching her in a friendly way is flirting? Would love others' input on this. I won't say "males only" since I'm sure women have had this sort of thing too and maybe were just friends with the person, etc., so all input is welcome.
Plus I haven't started a thread in a while.
I only touch my wife, that's it. i work at a place that if you make the wrong move you're done, i'm a "hands off" guy.
I think the boundaries are clear. I don't get the unclarity. If you notice that someone is touching you like you described, they either have a personal space understanding issue or they are flirting. This is probably a married woman who is trying to stroke her ego by flirting with other married men, and wanting to know if the guy was flirting back. typical.
Unless your genitalia is being groped or if simple touching seems to be leading that way it is usually nothing as humans are naturally tactile beings.
Watch a group of monkeys preening each other - is it sexual or exactly what it is - preening?
I don't suggest humans sit and preen each other but we have been convinced every man is a deviously sick SOB with no intentions but abduction, bondage, torture, rape and murder on his mind; little kids being the preferred target.
We are all seemingly sexual predators who should register ourselves as sex offenders just to ease the minds of whacked out people convinced of such. Reading this thread tells me how many people have bought into the hype and don't trust anyone at all for any reason.
Party on, Garth.
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(i.e., European vs. North American, etc.)
