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I occasionally will put my hand on someone's shoulder when showing them how to do something on the computer at work or if someone is not paying the most attention to their surrounding and needs to be ushered to one side I will place my hand on their side so they do not accidentally run in to me.
I try to avoid these situations as much as I can and there is never anything implied wih it...
"People looking for "something" will try to find it everywhere they can"
I occasionally will put my hand on someone's shoulder when showing them how to do something on the computer at work or if someone is not paying the most attention to their surrounding and needs to be ushered to one side I will place my hand on their side so they do not accidentally run in to me.
I try to avoid these situations as much as I can and there is never anything implied wih it...
"People looking for "something" will try to find it everywhere they can"
Is all i can really say.
I didn't say I was looking for 'something,' I just didn't understand the purpose of it.
I didn't say I was looking for 'something,' I just didn't understand the purpose of it.
I wasn't referencing you specifically. I was speaking about those who jump to conclusions.
Where you standing in a doorway or line where he may have had to get by? He may have just been doing what I do from time to time by preemptively bracing himself or you with touch to let you know you needed to move a little to avoid an accidental nudge.
It sounds like he was just looking out for you, even if from your perspective it seemed unnecessary.
I wasn't referencing you specifically. I was speaking about those who jump to conclusions.
Where you standing in a doorway or line where he may have had to get by? He may have just been doing what I do from time to time by preemptively bracing himself or you with touch to let you know you needed to move a little to avoid an accidental nudge.
It sounds like he was just looking out for you, even if from your perspective it seemed unnecessary.
The side is more "personal space" to me. I'd find that off. Shoulders, upper arm are all fair game, even for people I don't know.
People I know can add on lower arm, hand in some situations and the knee give or take an inch or so.
Lower back, waist, and thigh these are zones that are more intimate.
So that seems pretty weird to me. That borders into flirty territory.
The side is more "personal space" to me. I'd find that off. Shoulders, upper arm are all fair game, even for people I don't know.
People I know can add on lower arm, hand in some situations and the knee give or take an inch or so.
Lower back, waist, and thigh these are zones that are more intimate.
So that seems pretty weird to me. That borders into flirty territory.
It may not be a matter of having the choice of "where do I touch" it could simply be a matter of I do not have time to speak what needs to be said and this person is about to walk in to someone or something they can't see on the other side of the door.
Who knows!
I have been in situations just like this where the other was oblivious to why I was attempting to react in a way that avoided something out of their sight or awareness and received a dirty looks and comments as a result.
It may not be a matter of having the choice of "where do I touch" it could simply be a matter of I do t have time to speak what needs to be said and this person is about to walk in to someone they can't see on the other side of the door.
Who knows!
I have been in situations just like this where the other was oblivious to why I was attempting to react in a way that avoided something out of their sight or awareness.
I think it is inappropriate to touch a stranger at the waist (except for maybe if you are hugging that person), you should aim for the shoulder/arm if you don't know the person. That's weird, and could be pretty traumatic for that person.
I'm not one of those chicks who
touches guys to get their attention....
To me, it seems desperate.
Conversely, people touch me in public quite often, lol
Either my arms, hands,
shoulders, waist....
even my hair,
now that I think about it.....
It sometimes can
catch me off guard,
but if I'm cool with the person I don't mind
Usually they're offering up a compliment anyways
I think it is inappropriate to touch a stranger at the waist (except for maybe if you are hugging that person), you should aim for the shoulder/arm if you don't know the person. That's weird, and could be pretty traumatic for that person.
I don't find it weird to assist someone in avoiding possible injury in the scenario provided. Where does the line get drawn in these situations? Do we sit back and watch them take place?
Again, intent is everything and unfortunately we don't have time to get to know everyone's personal comfort levels in come and go situations.
If I touch someone to help them avoid happenings they are unaware of and they take offense I can apologize after, I can't take back the occurrence I'm helping them avoid...it's out of my control.
I would rather take the blame than see someone hurt.
I am not arguing people's personal comfort zones, I understand some are more or less reserved than others. I am arguing "understanding" from a different perspective other than the personal one when these occurrences Happen to us in life.
On a side note, the lower back or waist area is the easiest way to move someone. It is center of gravity on the body and as such moves ALL of the body when pushed.
Last edited by rego00123; 07-01-2014 at 01:00 PM..
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