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She had a point. Although we collected Christmas ornaments from places we traveled together, there was nothing in our home that indicated a couple lived there: No framed wedding picture on the wall, no photos on the end tables, no snapshots of us together stuck to the fridge with a magnet. She said there was no sense of permanence to the place, no sense of the people who lived there.
Granted, signs of visual decoration alone can vary widely, from one individual to another. For example: I have no photographs, no paintings, no posted pictures either, both in my personal home living space, as well as my office desk.
Does it mean I don't have a sense of "permanance", though? I don't think so...lol after all, I've been sitting at the exact same desk for over a decade, and the entire time without any meaningful visual decor Just my own personal preference, I guess...
So wait...I can't answer questions? Some of the posters on this board who have read my posts before know that I'm not attempting to "parade" anything. Am I supposed to live in a dump? It's it wrong to have a tasteful home? What exactly is your problem?
I take offense to that comment simply because I'm trying to be as honest as possible, some said maybe my house is a "man cave" to which I'll post pictures to prove it is not. Status? What "status" are you talking about? I don't have ANY "status", I work as an engineer...not exactly a glamorous and lofty position.
Why exactly are you trying to attack me?
SpeedyAZ,
I for one think your home is beautiful. Regarding the post you answered with this post (#151), there are all kinds of fools on here, and all kinds of really nice people. You just have to weed them out and I think the rest of us pretty much have this poster figured out...
Let me put this another way then. If she's such a nice girl, blah, blah, blah, why does she NOT do her share? Why is she using him? Yes, she is using him financially. She is not putting anything positive in this relationship. So what she's charming and a Type A personality, she's also a user.
Would you say this about every housewife, every stay at home mom? I really don't see how you could extract so much from so little. He's not a victim.
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It doesn't matter to me if he can afford to live that lifestyle. It's obvious if he's asking this question, his gut is telling him something is wrong.
That may be, but it isn't the end of the world and she isn't Satan.
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It's ok to be taken care of if it's the arrangement of the couple BUT she is using that and buying extravagant items that she normally would not be able to.
He already said, and it was already pointed out by LM, that HE didn't expect her to. HE introduced her to this lifestyle.
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But you are right, Mountain, that he has chosen her and feels she is not a gold digger. Not until she takes him for everything he's got. It's on him but her lifestyle change will not happen after marriage, it will probably get worse.
Again, where do you extract such extreme negativity from what he has shared?
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So OP, keep working, work until you drop from her spending your hard earned money. It's your life and no one can tell you who to chose. It's up to you.
You missed where he said she spent HER money on these things. Seems you only see what you want to see.
I would rather live in a cockroach infested studio in the middle of Watts ALONE than with a man in HIS brand new house on Malibu beach
Just sayin'...I once lived with a man in HIS house, I bought all the groceries, cleaning supplies, I cleaned the house, did his laundry, cooked, entertained...he made 6x as much money as I did...and he still treated me like a free loader. I left, and did not look back
I hear he has cancer now...and no one lives with him...he is alone. Sad for him. His last GF left him too...and he offerred to marry her, and she still would not stay with him..
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Just my own personal preference, I guess...
Who's house is it? MY house
