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Have you ever met an attractive (tall, charming, successful, good-looking) guy who lots of attractive women have expressed interest in that was "trapped" in a relationship (without having a kid) for any of the following reasons:
(a) low self-esteem
(b) he had nowhere else to go
(c) he thought he couldn't do any better
I have heard that many attractive women, despite having several options to choose from, stay with guys because they have low self-esteem, have nowhere else to go, or because they think they can't do any better. Sometimes they stay in a relationship with a guy who is clearly inferior to her other suitors by all observable metrics (height, looks, money, and attitude). So I started wondering: "Do attractive men get trapped into relationships because of low self-esteem?" Have you ever seen a hot guy with a girl you thought "wasn't on his level" and who was treating him poorly and thought to yourself, "He's only with her because he has low self-esteem and doesn't think he can do any better?" Just curious.
Last edited by BajanYankee; 06-10-2011 at 07:53 AM..
Well there's your problem. You aren't paying attention to what really matters.
I just revised that part. So basically, what is the male equivalent of a beautiful woman trapped in a relationship with a loser who treats her poorly? Have you ever seen a super hot guy, who had lots of attractive options but was with an unattractive girl who treated him like crap? And if so, do you think it was because he lacked self-esteem and felt he couldn't do any better?
Have you ever met an attractive (tall, charming, successful, good-looking) guy who lots of attractive women have expressed interest in that was "trapped" in a relationship (without having a kid) for any of the following reasons:
(a) low self-esteem
(b) he had nowhere else to go
(c) he thought he couldn't do any better
I have heard that many attractive women, despite having several options to choose from, stay with guys because they have low self-esteem, have nowhere else to go, or because they think they can't do any better. Sometimes they stay in a relationship with a guy who is clearly inferior to her other suitors by all observable metrics (height, looks, money, and attitude). So I started wondering: "Do attractive men get trapped into relationships because of low self-esteem?" Have you ever seen a hot guy with a girl you thought "wasn't on his level" and who was treating him poorly and thought to yourself, "He's only with her because he has low self-esteem and doesn't think he can do any better?" Just curious.
I rarely see "attractive" men with "inferior" women, because those men in general have their pick of the litter.
Attractive guys possess traits such as good looks, wealth, physical characteristics, confidence, strong personalities, and more. These things would naturally lead him toward meeting/dating high-value women as well.
There are always exceptions to common "widsom" it seems. Either the guy has some hard to discern major flaw that limits his options, or he may find his apparently sub-par partner to be superior in ways that matter to him - or at least she once was, and he is a person who honors commitments.
I rarely see "attractive" men with "inferior" women, because those men in general have their pick of the litter.
Attractive guys possess traits such as good looks, wealth, physical characteristics, confidence, strong personalities, and more. These things would naturally lead him toward meeting/dating high-value women as well.
So you've never a met a hot guy with a girl who was not attractive and treated him like crap (i.e., cheating on him, flirting with other men in front of him, making him feel bad)?
Have you ever known an attractive girl with a guy that most people, by conventional standards, would not consider attractive, and that guy treated her poorly (cheating on her, flirting with other girls in front of her, not coming home at night)?
So you've never a met a hot guy with a girl who was not attractive and treated him like crap (i.e., cheating on him, flirting with other men in front of him, making him feel bad)?
Have you ever known an attractive girl with a guy that most people, by conventional standards, would not consider attractive, and that guy treated her poorly?
I've met and had friends who were high-value guys, good-looking, intelligent, and great futures - and were definitely with girls "inferior" to him, but they were not unattractive.
One instance comes to mind - two high-school sweethearts. But even then, the girl isn't completely unattractive, she's just not at his "level".
I just revised that part. So basically, what is the male equivalent of a beautiful woman trapped in a relationship with a loser who treats her poorly? Have you ever seen a super hot guy, who had lots of attractive options but was with an unattractive girl who treated him like crap? And if so, do you think it was because he lacked self-esteem and felt he couldn't do any better?
Yep, I've seen it on bridezillas. Most of those women are fugly as heck!
I've met and had friends who were high-value guys, good-looking, intelligent, and great futures - and were definitely with girls "inferior" to him, but they were not unattractive.
One instance comes to mind - two high-school sweethearts. But even then, the girl isn't completely unattractive, she's just not at his "level".
So have you ever encountered attractive women with losers who treated them poorly and you said to yourself "WTF?"
Have you ever met an attractive (tall, charming, successful, good-looking) guy who lots of attractive women have expressed interest in that was "trapped" in a relationship (without having a kid) for any of the following reasons:
(a) low self-esteem
(b) he had nowhere else to go
(c) he thought he couldn't do any better
I have heard that many attractive women, despite having several options to choose from, stay with guys because they have low self-esteem, have nowhere else to go, or because they think they can't do any better. Sometimes they stay in a relationship with a guy who is clearly inferior to her other suitors by all observable metrics (height, looks, money, and attitude). So I started wondering: "Do attractive men get trapped into relationships because of low self-esteem?" Have you ever seen a hot guy with a girl you thought "wasn't on his level" and who was treating him poorly and thought to yourself, "He's only with her because he has low self-esteem and doesn't think he can do any better?" Just curious.
Keep in mind that some of these attractive women don't see themselves as attractive. As a general rule, women underestimate their looks and men overestimate theirs. This would explain why they don't feel like they can do better. And a lot of guys will deliberately try to make their partner feel bad about her looks, calling her fat, ugly, etc. basically to convince her that no other guy would want her. I've seen attractive women who stayed in bad relationships because, after a string of failed relationships, they didn't want to feel like they failed again. I've even seen attractive women stay because they felt like the guy couldn't manage without her.
As far as attractive men feeling "trapped", it's not as common, but I have seen some cases. One guy's a doctor. Tall, good-looking, and being a doctor, he has no trouble attracting women. But he comes from a family of doctors and had it drilled into his head that he should only marry another doctor. So he did, but now he's not very happy. He could definitely do better, but since he doesn't think very highly of other doctors, he figures if there is someone out there better than his wife, chances are she's not a doctor. Another guy I know has a similar problem. He's black, he married a black woman, but she doesn't treat him very well. He's an attractive guy, but doesn't want to date outside his race and doesn't like any of the black women he meets. So now he's convinced that there are no good black women out there who are single. So in both their cases, it's not an issue of self-esteem so much as feeling like they don't have any better options.
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