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06-04-2011, 10:02 AM
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Location: Tall Building down by the river
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No matter what female I talk to from what dating serice, they all seem to be interested in what is a typical weekend for me. Why do I feel like I always have to give out this make believe weekend just to satisfy someone into thinking every single weekend of my life is very exciting. Who exactly has an exciting weekend every weekend whether you are 20. 30, 40? Why can't we be REAL when getting to know someone? We are always trying to make the other person think that we are exciting and have theze exciting lives.
I think this has always been my main problem with the getting to know process
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06-04-2011, 10:14 AM
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Tell her what your weekend is like. She may actually be looking for a homebody.
And quit complaining. She is interested enough to ask and is trying to get to know you. Whining about a woman being interested in what your life is like when you are talking because you are on an online dating service SEEKING COMPANIONSHIP is just petulant and ridiculous.
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06-04-2011, 10:15 AM
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Oh good grief, you must be about the most tediously boring man I have ever encountered. You don't have to be Mr Awesome but sheesh, even a slight hint of personality, wit and humour is better than none at all.
Make your weekends fun and exciting, you only live once.
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06-04-2011, 10:21 AM
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Location: Reno, NV
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It's the car shopping mentality. You want one with all the options packages even if you can't afford it and won't use them - at least you have bragging rights about how awesome your new car is if it has all that stuff. Or, some people may hope to be rescued from their terribly dull lives.
I have a wide variety of interests and activities, but I don't do all of them (sometimes none of them) on any given weekend. When dating, you do make some effort to do things together, and it's the together part them makes them exciting!
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06-04-2011, 10:23 AM
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Well, if you FEEL that you have to give an exciting response, then that's all on YOU, I'm afraid. Did you ever consider that it may be just the opposite answer that a REAL person is looking for? If I was on a dating site, I would personally prefer that the person tell me they worked on their house or watched movies with their friends or played a game of cards with the neighbors and took care of necessary chores....or even that they watched football/soccer/hockey all weekend laying around in the PJ's. That is more the type of person I am, so would attract me more. I like to know that he takes care of business (like: I cleaned out and washed the car) and that he knows how to relax without spending a fortune ("then, my friend and I watched the game and ordered pizza"). If I hear that he flew to Vegas and got all crazy or goes hang gliding/snowboarding/climbing/boating or something every weekend, I worry that I will not be able to keep up and that he probably isn't being realistic in his spending habits. But, that is just me....
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06-04-2011, 10:23 AM
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Location: SC
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Have you read Facebook Statuses?? Some people exaggerate how happy they are, how much fun they have and how great their life is when you know they are miserable. If someone posted that they stayed home & watched tv every weekend, would you want to pursue them?
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06-04-2011, 10:26 AM
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Location: Tall Building down by the river
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Quote:
Originally Posted by Yzette
Tell her what your weekend is like. She may actually be looking for a homebody.
And quit complaining. She is interested enough to ask and is trying to get to know you. Whining about a woman being interested in what your life is like when you are talking because you are on an online dating service SEEKING COMPANIONSHIP is just petulant and ridiculous.
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Because it seems like this response is never good enough
"Some weekends i'm out with friends or family, some weekends I'm in the house"
From that...."Oh so you don't like to go out that much?-lol |
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06-04-2011, 10:33 AM
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Originally Posted by TVandSportsGuy
Because it seems like this response is never good enough
"Some weekends i'm out with friends or family, some weekends I'm in the house"
From that...."Oh so you don't like to go out that much?-lol
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You could have elaborated about when you go out with family/friends. You could have said "Last weekend, I went with my family/friends to _______ and we did ______ and had a great time" Or "last weekend, my family/friends had a BBQ at ______ house and it was great to get together with everyone and talk about _____". For you to just say "some weekends I'm out, some weekends I'm in" doesn't leave much room for any other response but what she gave you. You have to elaborate a bit.
I don't think anyone is looking for someone who is out partying every weekend. I'm thinking maybe she was more interested in how you spend your free time. |
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06-04-2011, 10:51 AM
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Location: Tall Building down by the river
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Originally Posted by omigawd
You could have elaborated about when you go out with family/friends. You could have said "Last weekend, I went with my family/friends to _______ and we did ______ and had a great time" Or "last weekend, my family/friends had a BBQ at ______ house and it was great to get together with everyone and talk about _____". For you to just say "some weekends I'm out, some weekends I'm in" doesn't leave much room for any other response but what she gave you. You have to elaborate a bit.
I don't think anyone is looking for someone who is out partying every weekend. I'm thinking maybe she was more interested in how you spend your free time.
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I just met this 20 year old girl and I think I will tell her we are not compatile enough. She likes older men but she believes in being out every day even on the weekends and fals to realize that when you work 45 plus hours a week and is paying bills it's not possible. She is more PLAY MATERIAL instead of relationship material |
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06-04-2011, 11:07 AM
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Location: Tall Building down by the river
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It was a female who stated in her profile that she was a homebody and I asked her was she looking for another homebody and she said No-lol
She was looking for the opposite
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