Single Mother/Single Father: What's the Bigger Dating Handicap?

[southseeker]

Originally Posted by HonestOne1

Single Mothers have a much harder time finding a guy who will accept and raise their kids than Single Fathers.

This is a no brainer. Somewhere around 90% of all child care providers and grade school teachers are Women. Women have a natural nurturing instinct towards kids.

Guys, especially those without kids in their 30s and 40s, are primarily looking for a boink, and eventually those kids are just gonna get in the way.

Or some guys like myself, don't like the idea of raising another guy's kids.

[optiflex]

Depends...is the kid cute? Eddies father had a date every week on the show.

[DennyCrane]

Originally Posted by ChessieMom

I think the bigger handicap goes to the one that has custody...simply due to time constraints. I don't think it matters whether you are the mom or the dad.

I agree. If you're dating the person who has primary custody, then it means they'll have less free time that they can allocate to you. Since the mother is more often the one who has primary custody, that makes it harder for her whereas the father will have most of his evenings free to spend with his girlfriend.

Originally Posted by MrRational

If you have kids AND want more than a casual or just sexual relationship from this "dating"...
then don't waste your time with anyone who doesn't also already have kids.

I'll never understand why people buy into this reasoning. How does the other person also having kids make it any easier? Yes, they'll understand what it's like for you. But now you have two people with limited free time. Seems like all the potential hassles that come with dating someone with kids are just made worse when both people have them.