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Emotionally I feel numb. I can't think about being with anyone and loving them the same as I would with my ex. I'm really in the need to want to be sexually active. I feel like I'm going to jump out of my skin. I want to explore my sexual fanasties. Is there anything wrong with that 3 weeks after a break up? I'm a real honest guy and if I meet a girl I'm going to tell her I just want to screw and she's not going to like that. Where do I find a group that's feels the same as I do. I don't want to be attached to somone like I was. The pain is too much. The 3 years I dated someone I was fully commited and I never cheated and after the break up I feel cheated. I'm bitter right now.
Emotionally I feel numb. I can't think about being with anyone and loving them the same as I would with my ex. I'm really in the need to want to be sexually active. I feel like I'm going to jump out of my skin. I want to explore my sexual fanasties. Is there anything wrong with that 3 weeks after a break up? I'm a real honest guy and if I meet a girl I'm going to tell her I just want to screw and she's not going to like that. Where do I find a group that's feels the same as I do. I don't want to be attached to somone like I was. The pain is too much. The 3 years I dated someone I was fully commited and I never cheated and after the break up I feel cheated. I'm bitter right now.
In the grand scheme of things you got your heart ripped out like 5 minutes ago - so it's too soon to do anything like decide you'll "never love again"
Give yourself some time. Right now you are still experiencing a physical reaction to your emotional pain - this will pass once the adrenalin in your body gets back to normal levels.
What you need to do right now is take good care of yourself.
Lay off the alcohol, forget about sex with other people, eat right, drink lots of water, stay away from caffeine, do something physical (like running or chopping wood) and try to sleep as regularly as you can.
If you follow this regimen you will begin to feel some relief quicker than if you do anything else.
Looking for random people to have sex with won't make the pain go away any quicker, and will most likely just make you feel a lot worse in the long run, don't do it.
I agree w/ lovesmountains... walk, run, workout... believe me 11 months ago I was in the same situation/ couldn't sleep, adrenaline going 1,000 miles an hour... I stayed away from the urge to jumpin the sack with the next available male by the way... I called, visited friends and family members real often... they loved it and it helped me talk things out and hear myself answer many of my own questions (sometimes saying something out loud to someone makes you stop and think about it before you do something stupid)... I felt like someone took a box cutter knife, cut a hole in my chest and yanked it out of my chest... I'm over it now... onto the most confusing part of "singleism"... online and face to face dating... wahoo!! LOL
Emotionally I feel numb. I can't think about being with anyone and loving them the same as I would with my ex. I'm really in the need to want to be sexually active. I feel like I'm going to jump out of my skin. I want to explore my sexual fanasties. Is there anything wrong with that 3 weeks after a break up? I'm a real honest guy and if I meet a girl I'm going to tell her I just want to screw and she's not going to like that. Where do I find a group that's feels the same as I do. I don't want to be attached to somone like I was. The pain is too much. The 3 years I dated someone I was fully commited and I never cheated and after the break up I feel cheated. I'm bitter right now.
I was going through this for 3 weeks. I was working out doing push ups and sit ups and it didn't do much for me but up until today I jogged around the city and came back and felt great. I've been losing weight and I feel great and it's making me want to hook up and screw. I was latched to having sex with somone for 3 years. I lost my virginity to her. Now I am single I want to jump on something else. :/ Don't get me wrong though I would give a limb up to be back with her. The best thing about me is my loyalty but I have no say in this break up. Other then being depressed 90% of the time, the thought of me being free to explore my sexual fanasties makes me happy. I'm 22!!!! I won't be young forever and I think I should take advantage of this moment. Thanks for the advice guys.
Single after 3 years and I have no desire to do that again
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Originally Posted by lovesMountains
In the grand scheme of things you got your heart ripped out like 5 minutes ago - so it's too soon to do anything like decide you'll "never love again"
Give yourself some time. Right now you are still experiencing a physical reaction to your emotional pain - this will pass once the adrenalin in your body gets back to normal levels.
What you need to do right now is take good care of yourself.
Lay off the alcohol, forget about sex with other people, eat right, drink lots of water, stay away from caffeine, do something physical (like running or chopping wood) and try to sleep as regularly as you can.
If you follow this regimen you will begin to feel some relief quicker than if you do anything else.
Looking for random people to have sex with won't make the pain go away any quicker, and will most likely just make you feel a lot worse in the long run, don't do it.
I couldn't agree more with lovemountains post. 'Jumping the bones' of the first girl that comes along is not going to make you feel any better. Nothing helps you get over a breakup except time, and your own ability to put the good times out of your head. Treat this relationship like an ice cream cone, it was good while it lasted, but when it's over it's gone. I've been where you are, it's not fun. But, you will love again and next time it could be even better than the last time. It was for me. Use your head, look for things you didn't see in your first relationship, to make your next better. It just takes time, you will survive.
Get rid of the good memories? man she was my whole college experience. I can't forget that. I cherish it like gold. We are the best of friends because of it. Theres no love lost it's just we can't be together.
I'll consider it but man I've been living like an old married couple for the last 3 years. I want to party. I want to fulfill my sexual fanasties. Do crazy things. I've always been the hardworking a beer once a week kinda guy. Go to school/work come home and spend time with gf and every now and then we would go to the movies. I excluded myself from everyone else due to the attention on her. I don't have many friends because of it. I want a "girl" friend but I also want a **** buddy. Theres nothing wrong with that at my age. I got nothing but a best friend out of being commited for 3 years. A WASTE. :/
I was going through this for 3 weeks. I was working out doing push ups and sit ups and it didn't do much for me but up until today I jogged around the city and came back and felt great. I've been losing weight and I feel great and it's making me want to hook up and screw. I was latched to having sex with somone for 3 years. I lost my virginity to her. Now I am single I want to jump on something else. :/ Don't get me wrong though I would give a limb up to be back with her. The best thing about me is my loyalty but I have no say in this break up. Other then being depressed 90% of the time, the thought of me being free to explore my sexual fanasties makes me happy. I'm 22!!!! I won't be young forever and I think I should take advantage of this moment. Thanks for the advice guys.
So you want to explore your sexual fantasies and if you meet a girl you're going to be honest and tell her you just wanna screw ? there's a huge group of people that think just like you do...down on the corner , just have your wallet ready.....and don't break any hearts.
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Don't get me wrong though I would give a limb up to be back with her. The best thing about me is my loyalty but I have no say in this break up. Other then being depressed 90% of the time, the thought of me being free to explore my sexual fanasties makes me happy. I'm 22!!!! I won't be young forever and I think I should take advantage of this moment. Thanks for the advice guys.
Single after 3 years and I have no desire to do that again
