Love, it does happen... Don't give up. (dating, wife, married)
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CD Friends, it's been some time since posting openly on the forum. I've been quite busy. I haven't had a chance to go through the recent posts to see if it's the same thing, different day / same people and same issues BUT, for those who still say they can't find love. Do not give up. As some of you may know, back in December my b/f of five years broke up with me, no reason given but it had been coming a long time and we had just been too lazy / complacent to do anything about it. Fast forward, I started seeing a guy, someone I had been friends with but hadn't much thought about dating and low and behold, he's just the greatest thing since sliced bread.
Not only was I ready to put myself out there but I was ready to be in a relationship and finally be happy with the person I was with. This man is quite a few years younger but wise beyond his years and so, it works. I have no complaints, like any couple we do have little spats here and there but the majority of the time we are just as happy as can be. We now live with each other and it was without a doubt the best choice I ever made to take a chance and go with my gut on this one..... Just a great guy and better suited for my personality.
I want men and women especially to have faith. If you are happy with yourself and you're ready for love, it will happen. You have to just let nature take its course though, nothing can be rushed and you have to be open minded and realize that you're not perfect. When you're realistic about yourself, your desires and your "man wish list", it's amazing how quickly the right guy comes along. Keep your chin up girls, there are still good men out there who are also looking for love and long term relationships.
I agree with you for the most part. The part that I found interesting was that you said there was no rush. I think many people forget that there's no rush or set age where you have to find that someone. Heck, you don't even have to find anyone at all. Just be happy either way.
Love is a wonderful and mysterious thing. Funny how it can just hit ya. However it would take a lot of woman for me to commit. And I am not willing to settle for "good enough". The one I marry will have a sweet personality, major T&A...major, no substance issues, no lazy issues, no anger issues, faithful and responsible yet wicked and voyeuristic sexually yet into me...only. She will have to have a love of life and not be a drama queen or a demanding princess.
Some guys marry a girl who is hot yet puts up with her cheating and or expecting to be provided for completely just because she is hot and all the guys lust for her....I won't. After the sex is satisfied and you have had her hot stuff enough then you have to contend with her evil s***, no thanks
Some guys marry a girl who isn't really sexually satisfying because she has other wife worthy qualities.....I won't. Yes she is a sweet heart, yes she is a great wife and trustworthy and caring but my eyes and imagination can't help but stray..
I think there is a good chance I'll be a life long bachelor.
I want men and women especially to have faith. If you are happy with yourself and you're ready for love, it will happen. You have to just let nature take its course though, nothing can be rushed and you have to be open minded and realize that you're not perfect. When you're realistic about yourself, your desires and your "man wish list", it's amazing how quickly the right guy comes along. Keep your chin up girls, there are still good men out there who are also looking for love and long term relationships.
Love is a wonderful and mysterious thing. Funny how it can just hit ya. However it would take a lot of woman for me to commit. And I am not willing to settle for "good enough". The one I marry will have a sweet personality, major T&A...major, no substance issues, no lazy issues, no anger issues, faithful and responsible yet wicked and voyeuristic sexually yet into me...only. She will have to have a love of life and not be a drama queen or a demanding princess.
Some guys marry a girl who is hot yet puts up with her cheating and or expecting to be provided for completely just because she is hot and all the guys lust for her....I won't. After the sex is satisfied and you have had her hot stuff enough then you have to contend with her evil s***, no thanks
Some guys marry a girl who isn't really sexually satisfying because she has other wife worthy qualities.....I won't. Yes she is a sweet heart, yes she is a great wife and trustworthy and caring but my eyes and imagination can't help but stray..
I think there is a good chance I'll be a life long bachelor.
Don't feel so alone, you're not the only one in that boat. I married the not-so-hot but steady sample...turns out she wasn't even steady, just looking for a material standard just like the trophies. Flaked out as soon as the ink was dry. Your stated mutual exclusivity of qualities seems to be rampant. Hot chicks assert privately they need to be clowned for on the basis of their "valuable" physical traits. Usually what happens is these women become single mothers and then go looking for the provider husband to pay her way and that of her bastard kids, now that she has settled. Which is a euphemism for she's no longer as coveted. I agree with you, PASS.
In my experience there's order of magnitude greater number of decent women that COULD make decent partners, but lack appeal on the looks department, whereas trophies are more rare but are easy to spot by their flippant behavior, more so than their looks. I blame the former on the wave of obesity that's ruining this country's dating stock. Way too many fat people out there. I've gone on two dates from online sources and the one trend item is the false advertisement on the weight department. These women lose the 30lbs they're carrying around, or hell show up looking like the pictures from 5 years ago they're using as bait on these sites, and the dating pool would shrink dramatically for the trophies. There's a lot of cute women out there hidden under disgusting pounds of fat and lazyness. But I digress.
I hear ya, better alone than in for a half-true motivation.
CD Friends, it's been some time since posting openly on the forum. I've been quite busy. I haven't had a chance to go through the recent posts to see if it's the same thing, different day / same people and same issues BUT, for those who still say they can't find love. Do not give up. As some of you may know, back in December my b/f of five years broke up with me, no reason given but it had been coming a long time and we had just been too lazy / complacent to do anything about it. Fast forward, I started seeing a guy, someone I had been friends with but hadn't much thought about dating and low and behold, he's just the greatest thing since sliced bread.
Not only was I ready to put myself out there but I was ready to be in a relationship and finally be happy with the person I was with. This man is quite a few years younger but wise beyond his years and so, it works. I have no complaints, like any couple we do have little spats here and there but the majority of the time we are just as happy as can be. We now live with each other and it was without a doubt the best choice I ever made to take a chance and go with my gut on this one..... Just a great guy and better suited for my personality.
I want men and women especially to have faith. If you are happy with yourself and you're ready for love, it will happen. You have to just let nature take its course though, nothing can be rushed and you have to be open minded and realize that you're not perfect. When you're realistic about yourself, your desires and your "man wish list", it's amazing how quickly the right guy comes along. Keep your chin up girls, there are still good men out there who are also looking for love and long term relationships.
There is a lot of wisdom and truth in what you wrote, hopefully some here will learn something
Happy for you that you are in such a good place
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Way to go!!!!
