Girlfriend has a secret friend... Should I worry (long distance, women, love)
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My girlfriend and have been together for 4 years, it's long distance, we live an hour away from each other. Recently she pocket dialed me on her phone, I didnt answer but was left a voicemail of her and a guyarguing about his ex girlfriend. She said they were just friends and it was nothing to worry about, I said if they were gonna remain friends I wanted to meet him, it never happened. This was 4 months ago, and never mentioned again. I trusted her to tell me the truth. Recently she has stopped putting effort into seeing me , it seems I am always going there to see her. There is days when she dosent answer the phone, then calls me back an hour or 2 later, always has an excuse. Now I got a message through Facebook from the guy, he asked what was going on with our relationship? I told him and got no reply. She tells me they are friends, and that she hasn't talked to him in 3 weeks since all this happened? Should I be worried about this, if they are just friends why keep it such a secret?
I would be more concerned about the state of your relationship, than fixating on this guy. The truth is, if your relationship is strong and both of you are happy, then outsiders aren't really a threat. If your relationship is weak and she's not happy, then you've got problems whether this guy is in the picture or not.
So if it was me, I would ramp up the effort to connect with her, find out what's going on. Ask if she's happy. Maybe that helps get things to a better place. Or maybe it helps you see that it's run its course and you two are no longer a good fit.
I guess there is some mistrust now... After the first incident she told me it was nothing, I had no problem believing that. But now after all this time to be in the same situation over the same guy, I'm finding it hard to trust her. If they are just friends, what's the big deal if I want to meet him? I didn't ask to be his friend too, or even want to hang out with him, just want to meet him. I want to trust her and make it work. She has other guy friends, i know them, i dont talk to them, dont hang out with them and have not once in 4 years questioned there freindship. Is it too much too ask that if I can't meet him that she delete him from Facebook? And not talk to him anymore?
My girlfriend and have been together for 4 years, it's long distance, we live an hour away from each other. Recently she pocket dialed me on her phone, I didnt answer but was left a voicemail of her and a guyarguing about his ex girlfriend. [b]She said [/B]they were just friends and it was nothing to worry about, I said if they were gonna remain friends I wanted to meet him, it never happened. This was 4 months ago, and never mentioned again. I trusted her to tell me the truth. Recently she has stopped putting effort into seeing me , it seems I am always going there to see her. There is days when she dosent answer the phone, then calls me back an hour or 2 later, always has an excuse. Now I got a message through Facebook from the guy, he asked what was going on with our relationship? I told him and got no reply. She tells me they are friends, and that she hasn't talked to him in 3 weeks since all this happened? Should I be worried about this, if they are just friends why keep it such a secret?
I could argue with you on this but it sounds like she's defiantly cheating. Sorry man. Long distance relationships can do that. They never really work. You could be getting dumped soon as well.
This is what I would do. Do not confront her on her cheating because it sounds like she defiantly is. Get another girl and then cut your girlfriend before she cuts you.
What women do when they cheat is that they will make you think your crazy for thinking their cheating. My ex tried to fight me when I accused her and on top of it told her whole family I was insecure and crazy. I found out she was practically sleeping around with the whole neighborhood.
The reason why I told you to get another girlfriend before she leaves you is to save yourself from the devastation. Get another girl, don't let her know about your girlfriend and slowly push your current girlfriend away until she is completely replaced. Hit the club, and get out like crazy to meet one.
You been with her for 4 years. Having mental pictures in your mind of your love getting plowed by another man when you where calling on top of the fact she left you will be very hard to recover man. Trust me work on getting a replacement and give her a taste of her own medicine. Take it a step further and only use her for sex. Treat her how she's been treating you.
I guess there is some mistrust now... After the first incident she told me it was nothing, I had no problem believing that. But now after all this time to be in the same situation over the same guy, I'm finding it hard to trust her. If they are just friends, what's the big deal if I want to meet him? I didn't ask to be his friend too, or even want to hang out with him, just want to meet him. I want to trust her and make it work. She has other guy friends, i know them, i dont talk to them, dont hang out with them and have not once in 4 years questioned there freindship. Is it too much too ask that if I can't meet him that she delete him from Facebook? And not talk to him anymore?
They are not just friends. Deep down you know it. Why is it such a big deal that you can't meet him? She has guy friends. She sounds like a player at that. Don't let her consume your time. She is not worth it. Meet other women.
I would get on Facebook and discuss it in more detail between the 3 of you, some friends, then establish a poll!
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