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This might be a bit cliche, but seriously, how do I become confident in myself without becoming an egotist?? Also how do I stop comparing myself to other girls who I think (and I think the guys do too) is more attractive than me and gets more guys??
I cannot tell you how discouraging it is to want to talk to a guy that I want to, and then some other girl who's waaaaayyy hotter than me (no homo) shows up first!
Forget about the comparison / competition aspect, my friend...focus exclusively on the guy himself, and in putting your best possible foot forward, with him
find ways to become more internally validating. One trick I try to remember is when I see a girl thats universally and conventionally hot and good looking, first instinct is to envy right? (thank you society), try to envision yourself loving them or radiating love towards them. It's the exact opposite of the reaction you'd normally give which is what you want. Do the same things and you'll get the same results.
Thanx everyone!! you guys are awesome!! And to tell the truth, it's not that I don't think I'm ugly (well maybe under certain lights) but I just don't feel pretty compared to others who are maybe taller, thinner (I'm not fat, I'm actually on the lower end of normal on the BMI scale), has certain features that I don't, etc. But I need to realize that all are different and no two people are the same and that I can only be the best version of me rather than a second rate version of someone else.
This might be a bit cliche, but seriously, how do I become confident in myself without becoming an egotist?? Also how do I stop comparing myself to other girls who I think (and I think the guys do too) is more attractive than me and gets more guys??
I cannot tell you how discouraging it is to want to talk to a guy that I want to, and then some other girl who's waaaaayyy hotter than me (no homo) shows up first!
That guy was just blind..
Appreciate that other women are beautiful...and you will be confident within yourself..
Thanx everyone!! you guys are awesome!! And to tell the truth, it's not that I don't think I'm ugly (well maybe under certain lights) but I just don't feel pretty compared to others who are maybe taller, thinner (I'm not fat, I'm actually on the lower end of normal on the BMI scale), has certain features that I don't, etc. But I need to realize that all are different and no two people are the same and that I can only be the best version of me rather than a second rate version of someone else.
Learn to love your good qualities..I have such high self esteem..I dont have big boobs..or perfectly straight teeth..But I do have confidence..I have nice qualities that I love showing off...My motto is I'm just so freakn damn cute...
Keep in mind that not every guy likes the same type of attractive. As in, some guys may find you "cute" or "pretty" and not so much in others. Sometimes they're good at hiding it.
This might be a bit cliche, but seriously, how do I become confident in myself without becoming an egotist?? Also how do I stop comparing myself to other girls who I think (and I think the guys do too) is more attractive than me and gets more guys??
I cannot tell you how discouraging it is to want to talk to a guy that I want to, and then some other girl who's waaaaayyy hotter than me (no homo) shows up first!
There's always going to be someone who's better looking than you. Start by accepting that and learning to live with it. Even if you were the most beautiful person in the world, your looks would eventually fade and soon other women would be more attractive than you. Some of the most confident women I've ever met weren't the most beautiful women in the room and they knew it. But they liked who they were and that's what they projected.
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