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Hi everyone, it's been awhile (a long while) since I've posted in this section...I've been thinking long & hard about it & I think I'm going to give up on dating for awhile...I'm a little discouraged so I think I'm just going to do things I like (w/ friends & by myself) & do a lot of self-improvement. At first, I thought: I'm 22 & I turn 23 next month. It's not that I'm on the prowl to be married yet but I feel like I haven't had much success in the "male" department. I guess it's been difficult to meet guys when you're not in college anymore. (welcome to the Real World I guess)
Is it me? I don't think I'm too picky. All I'd like is someone who I can talk to and have fun with. Someone who I genuinely have a connection with. I used to be one of those girls to have a "list", well I did away with that also. If it takes me 20 years to find that person, so be it.. I just hope it comes sooner than that.
To be quite honest, I feel humbled by everything that I've experienced in the past year since graduating from college, especially now that I'm working & paying taxes & all that "grownup stuff" lol. In the end, I think that taking a break from dating will be good, though I still feel a little lonely from time to time. But that lonely feeling is normal...right?
Why do you feel lonely if you are not dating? I have had as much if not more fun just out with my girlfriends doing what we like. Dating doesn't have to be 24/7. When you meet someone who really interests you, enjoy getting to know him but don't fail to cultivate other friendships, both male and female as they will make you richer. You know yourself best but after college and the first year on a new job, just be good to yourself and enjoy your accomplishments. Marriage can be a long, long, long time and this stage of your life will be much shorter. I am so glad I had my hiatus time as it helped me grow and stand on my own two feet much better than if I was always tethered to someone else. The more interesting you become, the easier it will be to meet the right one.
As to the list thing, we all need to know ourselves well enough to have a flexible list. Not flexible when it comes honesty and integrity but flexible when it comes to the small stuff, like which end of the toothpaste tube to squeeze. For me, I had a sense of humor high on my list and it is needed when it comes to keeping a relationship together. At times I take the world too seriously and really need someone to remind me to laugh and keep it perspective.
Just take care of yourself first and the rest will come. Best wishes and good luck.
Location: Fort Bend County, TX/USA/Mississauga, ON/Canada
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Originally Posted by victorhe33
Do you have trouble meeting guys, making a connection after meeting? or both. Did you have success in college and highschool?
I dont think you need to put yourself in a hiatus but you can stop pressuring yourself. SOmetimes youll meet a guy when you least expect it.
Actually, no. I don't have problems meeting guys, but I guess it's just the "quality" I'm meeting versus the quantity. There is quantity, but not so much quality. Hope that made sense.
Hi everyone, it's been awhile (a long while) since I've posted in this section...I've been thinking long & hard about it & I think I'm going to give up on dating for awhile...I'm a little discouraged so I think I'm just going to do things I like (w/ friends & by myself) & do a lot of self-improvement. At first, I thought: I'm 22 & I turn 23 next month. It's not that I'm on the prowl to be married yet but I feel like I haven't had much success in the "male" department. I guess it's been difficult to meet guys when you're not in college anymore. (welcome to the Real World I guess)
Is it me? I don't think I'm too picky. All I'd like is someone who I can talk to and have fun with. Someone who I genuinely have a connection with. I used to be one of those girls to have a "list", well I did away with that also. If it takes me 20 years to find that person, so be it.. I just hope it comes sooner than that.
To be quite honest, I feel humbled by everything that I've experienced in the past year since graduating from college, especially now that I'm working & paying taxes & all that "grownup stuff" lol. In the end, I think that taking a break from dating will be good, though I still feel a little lonely from time to time. But that lonely feeling is normal...right?
Your experience is pretty normal, as are your feelings of being lonely
Honestly, all you need to do is live your life to the fullest, and things will work out best for you over time.
Get/stay physically active and get involved in things at your job and in your community. Take the focus off of yourself, put in on other people or projects that need more attention and you'll be surprised how much better you feel
Hi everyone, it's been awhile (a long while) since I've posted in this section...I've been thinking long & hard about it & I think I'm going to give up on dating for awhile...I'm a little discouraged so I think I'm just going to do things I like (w/ friends & by myself) & do a lot of self-improvement. At first, I thought: I'm 22 & I turn 23 next month. It's not that I'm on the prowl to be married yet but I feel like I haven't had much success in the "male" department. I guess it's been difficult to meet guys when you're not in college anymore. (welcome to the Real World I guess)
Is it me? I don't think I'm too picky. All I'd like is someone who I can talk to and have fun with. Someone who I genuinely have a connection with. I used to be one of those girls to have a "list", well I did away with that also. If it takes me 20 years to find that person, so be it.. I just hope it comes sooner than that.
To be quite honest, I feel humbled by everything that I've experienced in the past year since graduating from college, especially now that I'm working & paying taxes & all that "grownup stuff" lol. In the end, I think that taking a break from dating will be good, though I still feel a little lonely from time to time. But that lonely feeling is normal...right?
It's a rude awakening that so many people are self-absorbed and boorish ninnyhammers.
What a ninnyhammer? Is that smaller than a regular hammer?
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