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These are the characteristics that I carry:
I haven't truly hungout with a friend since Middle School.
I haven't hungout with a group of friends since Elementary School.
I obviously don't have any friends now. (I am in my 20's now)
I don't have any, ANY pictures to show of my youth besides the years when I was 7 and under. (Yes, this includes Prom, High School graduation, "Fun" summers I've had-none.)
I'm obviously a virgin. (I try my best to deny or hide this)
I have a hard time connecting with people, especially men, ESPECIALLY the men I like. Oy-Vey.
I don't talk that much generally speaking. I guess I may talk if I feel comfortable around the guy and have known him for a bit but that rarely happens so...
Sane Characteristics that may save me:
I consider myself indepedent.
I am open-minded (This may seem contradicting consider previous statements)
I don't really drink that much
I respect myself and those around me
Very Considerate
Creative Mind--Artistically speaking.
Enjoy humor.
Love to laugh
Characteristics that will Break me
I just don't know how to socialize well...
I don't want a guy to think I'm normal and then realize how weird I truly am after being around me. I can't afford to further smash my own ego. How do I imply that I am weird without coming off as completely insane?
A lot of these are issues that could be addressed now. Many people wouldn't care so much about a past issue that had been addressed and no longer hindered you. They would care much more if you weren't addressing it, and were allowing it to be "baggage" that you carry.
Have you tried therapy? For how long? What groups have you joined to try to make new friends?
You just sound like an anti-social virgin. Not really that weird other than having zero friends. I think you should go to therapy for that too. Find a healthy middle ground. Not everyone has to socialize in the same way but you should not be absolutely alone. Its not emotionally healthy,
Sometimes when people dwell on personal qualities that they consider to be very negative it tends to take on a life of it's own and an individual may end up exaggerating the significance of their perceived imperfection. I have a feeling you might be doing this without realizing it. First off I think it's a mistake to even consider what your OP is suggesting, in other words, telling a guy that there's something not quite right about you. If you have reinforced certain negative behaviors you can certainly reinforce positive ones as well because it's just your own patterns of thinking that are causing this in the first place. I would suggest that you start taking chances and begin engaging in behaviors that may seem uncomfortable or risky at first but in fact are likely to become new habits that will benefit your self image and your life because they'll make it better. It won't happen all at once but if you make a concerted effort to come out of your shell and comfort zone in an effort to communicate and get close to other people and then discover it actually is working I believe it can be done. You're still young and developing emotionally which is in your favor and self confidence tends to build upon itself if you'll let it. Good luck.
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These are the characteristics that I carry:
[list][*]I haven't truly hungout with a friend since Middle School.[*]I haven't hungout with a group of friends since Elementary School. [*]I obviously don't have any friends now. (I am in my 20's now)[*]I don't have any, ANY pictures to show of my youth besides the years when I was 7 and under. (Yes, this includes Prom, High School graduation, "Fun" summers I've had-none.)[*]I'm obviously a virgin. (I try my best to deny or hide this)[*]I have a hard time connecting with people, especially men, ESPECIALLY the men I like. Oy-Vey.[*]I don't talk that much generally speaking. I guess I may talk if I feel comfortable around the guy and have known him for a bit but that rarely happens so...
So to sum up, you're kind of socially awkward, not a big talker, and don't know how to get close to people? I don't think you're actually as weird as you think you are - a lot of people suffer from social anxiety disorders and your problem may not even be that severe. But if you really feel like it's negatively impacting your life, you should speak to a therapist.
I don't think you need to worry about letting a guy know about your social difficulties. He'll probably notice it himself early on. I think you sound like a pretty normal person on the inside so there's no reason to warn him about that... it's your "outside" self which is having problems and he will recognize that from the start.
There is probably some guy out there looking for a girl just like you...take some of your qualities and embrace them. Some things you can do is try to go out some...you said you are open-minded...can you be open minded to go out for a little adventure and this can be something simple as joining others at a book club event, a social party after work or go out to places where you might meet people in your age range. Just some thoughts.
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Then focus on trying to convince others, to love you more 
