I need to make a move but how?

[sydney1987]

if you're doubting whether you will come off as creepy or weird, you probably will. don't do it. just wait for things to move forward naturally. slow. unless you want to ruin things, then by all means go ahead.

[Checkered24]

Why put pressure on your dates by trying to find a way to slyly get a barometer for her feelings?

It's two dates, go on some more and get to know her better and enjoy the time. Be natural and normal. If giving her a compliment flows with the situation, do it.

I would doubt she is using you for free meals. In my experience, women tend to have better things to do than go on dates with people they have no interest in for the sake of a couple meals out.

[Garfunkle524]

Originally Posted by Caldus

I've been talking to this girl for a while online. We have met twice now. The first time was at a bar and we had a great time. I told her I enjoyed meeting up and she said the same. I had no doubt she was lying or trying to be nice, but you never know I suppose. So I told her we should get dinner some time. She said that would be nice. After a few weeks we finally find a good time to meet. We ate out tonight. It was at a pretty nice restaurant. We again had a good time. She insisted the same. I don't want to come off as desperate or creepy, but I also want to let her know that I do like her and want to see where we stand at this point. I want to text her to let her know that I really do like her and think that she is attractive. I feel like it's sort of taboo for a guy to get all like that especially in the early stages of everything. At the same time, I don't like playing games either. How should I present what I am thinking to her without coming off as creepy or just weird?

Have you kissed her yet? That's a great way to find out if she likes you as much as you like her. If she's receptive, then that's a good thing. If not, that's bad.

If you only had two dates and they were several weeks apart, I can understand how you are antzy. These things take time. Just be patient and you'll get there. You don't want to smother each other after two dates. Just enjoy each other's company and let the sparks fly. If she doesn't like you she'll start dropping subtle hints that you probably won't catch (if you're anything like me) but eventually you'll get that gut feeling that she's sending you signs. If you don't get that gut feeling and don't see any signs, it means she likes you (otherwise she wouldn't agree to go out with you again).

The best way to avoid the friend zone is to make sure you two touch each other. If you open a door for her (and you should be doing this) place your hand on her lower back to "guide" her in. If you're sitting at a restaurant don't sit across from her unless it's a booth. Sit next to her and touch her on the knee when you're telling a funny story or something. Here's a good one: take her to a museum, zoo, etc. where there is lots of walking and standing around while you admire whatever is on display. As she gets to a new exhibit, follow, then put your hand on her back or arm around her shoulder as you ask her a question about it. The best way to gauge how much she likes you is to observe how receptive she is to your touch. No conversation necessary.