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Looks like those practice dates was a waste of time back in thw winter because I went on two dates in a row with two attractive women and I was shaking with non stop sweating. This is so embarassing and frustrating because I can't control it. It defintely was no reason for me to be nervous on a 3rd date last night but the date today was a 1st date and I was nervous. So basically I'm not accomplishing anything by going on dates for practice with women who are not type.
How can I stop these aniexty attacks? And why the hell I would be meeting someone for the first time today when I have already scheduled 4th date with the other girl? I think I need medication.
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You are a hot mess...
It is totally normal to be nervous on a first date no matter how many dates you have been on..And yes this includes sweating and shaking hands..
a PRACTICE date is still a date regardless if the women are your type or not...you could just be nervous about meeting new people but you haveto determine what makes you so nervous...
Is it because you are afraid that you are being assessed? sized up? The possibility that person may not like you?
Have you ever thought that MAYBE you may not like them? The possibility that they are nervous as well?
Just saying..
Haven't found any keepers, eh?
Didn't you just whine about this woman wanting to have a meal in her neighborhood a week ago?
Read your posts objectively, would you go out with someone like you?
I think his issues do stem from some sort of social anxiety. This is probably why he refuses to go out sometimes and gives up way too easily. I am with lovesmountains on this one and recommend he see a doctor for some social anxiety pills. Not everyones brains work the same way or are as healthy as they should be. The nervous system sometimes is screwed up and needs a little help.
Misogyny, and a complete inability and lack of desire to even contemplate any sort of changes suggested countless times over a few years by scores of CD contributors.
To those of you who are unfamiliar with, "The World According to TVSG", welcome to the merry-go-round.
Grasshopper, my advice remains as always - get off your duff, get away from the computer screen and all those dating sites, get your lazy self out into the real world and make friends with real people of all ages and both sexes. Develop some interests apart from TV sports - even go to a LIVE game. Lord knows there are plenty in Philly. Good grief and triple sigh.
Looks like those practice dates was a waste of time back in thw winter because I went on two dates in a row with two attractive women and I was shaking with non stop sweating. This is so embarassing and frustrating because I can't control it. It defintely was no reason for me to be nervous on a 3rd date last night but the date today was a 1st date and I was nervous. So basically I'm not accomplishing anything by going on dates for practice with women who are not type.
How can I stop these aniexty attacks? And why the hell I would be meeting someone for the first time today when I have already scheduled 4th date with the other girl? I think I need medication.
What's there to be nervous about? Either she likes you or not. Either it works out or it doesn't. It seems like you have no issues getting dates so if one doesn't work out then just move on. Why is this so complicated?
Well, you are making progress if you are sick of it.
One thing to consider, OP, it is possible that the reason you make a mountain out of a molehill is because you encountered people along the way who did this to you. This thread is an example of this happening again.
Another example is that thread you started with the list you made. The woman freaked out and it made you unsure about yourself. This is a big problem.
Did you consider that instead reacting to overreaction, these are simply your opportunities to make mistakes and learn from them? Your overreactions are an indication that you cannot identify your feelings and, therefore, cannot solve your problem.
Well, you are making progress if you are sick of it.
One thing to consider, OP, it is possible that the reason you make a mountain out of a molehill is because you encountered people along the way who did this to you. This thread is an example of this happening again.
Another example is that thread you started with the list you made. The woman freaked out and it made you unsure about yourself. This is a big problem.
Did you consider that instead reacting to overreaction, these are simply your opportunities to make mistakes and learn from them? Your overreactions are an indication that you cannot identify your feelings and, therefore, cannot solve your problem.
For some reason I don't recall this happening to me in December, January, and February, even March, sweating. This is one of the reasons I HATE first dates in the summer time. Always did because the humidity adds to the aniexty sweat. Now it appears I'm less NERVOUS in the winter time than I am in the summer time. I think it has to do with me haing more CLOTHES on in the winter time. In the summertime I have on less clothes and my chunkiness is more exposed. Or it could be that it's more more HUMID in July than any other month of the year.
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