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Normal women will, and do!
What are you? Muslim or something, do you want women in burkhas and locked behind doors?
I rarely (except on CD) find men with such contempt for women. We are all equal, if you're so insecure to understand that, perhaps you might want to reconsider some of the comments you make.
Contempt of women?.... wow. you should read my thread about the wife/daughter double standard and you would see that if I have contempt for anybody... its other men.
Most women would take it as a compliment when I say they shouldn't do the approaching and let the man pursue them...
Contempt of women?.... wow. you should read my thread about the wife/daughter double standard and you would see that if I have contempt for anybody... its other men.
Most women would take it as a compliment when I say they shouldn't do the approaching and let the man pursue them...
Again, I don't think you're in a position to know what "most women" will or won't do, because I don't think you understand women at all.
As for contempt of women, I agree, I don't think you have contempt for women. You just have a bunch of bizarre myths about what they are actually like.
As a man, this is what I'd like: just be honest. Go up to him, tell him you noticed him and think he's hot, and ask if he'd like to go out. Nothing beats someone who is confident, honest, and doesn't play games.
One way that should most-always work (for either gender) as an ice breaker. Ask them questions that let them show off their knowledge to you. That is the topic you act interested in.
For this guy, ask about the fish. Tell him that you decided you'd had enough of frozen fish sticks and now want to learn which fish should be prepared how. How should a fresh fish (purchased from the farmers market!) be cleaned. Since he is cleaning them, he should be 'the expert'.
Give him a chance to show off a bit, and then segue into talking about how each of you likes to prepare them.
After you do that a bit, you need to show him that he is not only fascinating in his knowledge, but that he is also interesting in general, and attractive. In other words, you need to cross the line from shopper to dater.
That is supposed to be pretty easy in the grocery store, try it here and maybe you will get an invite, or have a chance to offer to cook for him (maybe as long as he picks and cleans?).
or the truth works well, it's surprisingly disarming....say something like...."i've been trying to think of something interesting to ask you about fish, but i can't really think of anything, and really i just wanted an excuse to say hi, that's all"
and when he smiles and says "hi" back, you smile and ask if he's single. if he says he's not, you just flash him your best smile again with a shrug, and say..."oh well, too bad. ok have a great afternoon." if he says he is single, introduce yourself, he will tell you his name at this point if he's interested, then you say "nice to meet you (mike or whatever), give me a call sometime if you like", leave him your number, smile again, wish him a good day and walk away (roll your hips a little as you walk away...subtly....he'll be watching lol)
simple sincerity and confidence is what a great guy responds positively to. even if he says he's not interested....you'll have him thinking about you, and how refreshing your approach was...none of that stupid coy, giggly, play hard to get one minute, vamping it up with come-hither moves the next bs which will only leave him thinking you're just another freak-girl. plus, you won't walk away feeling embarrassed for making a fool of yourself with some silly pick-up line or come on.
Hmmmm.....
So you haven't spoken with him, just observed him from "afar" and think he's beautiful.
This is called an infatuation. You have already created a fantasy persona for this guy and will be most likely disappointed when he doesn't match up to the guy you've created him to be. That's the real reason you haven't been "able to approach him". Deep down you want to keep the romantic fantasy going and not have it dashed on the rocks of reality.
Keep the fantasy, enjoy it for what it is. I'm not going to tell you not to approach him, just be aware of what's going on in your brain and be aware of how that may affect things.
Personally, when I encounter such infatuations, I enjoy keeping the fantasy until it fades. Practical, compatible relationship + brief, unrealized passions of mind = healthy, stable love life
I wouldn't call it infatuation, I just think he is really attractive and would like to get to know him better
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