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no the two girls don't know each other. believe me i was shocked when my one friend told me that this guy contacted her. b/c i don't live in a small town or anything so the odds weren't great. but stranger things happen i suppose right.
Oh, it's a very small world.
It would've been great if the other girl made plans with him and his GF showed up instead!
I don't know either one of you, but maybe you should tell her... You sound young. I doubt she's into such "open" relationships.
I had a similar dilemma in my mind just recently and I even wanted to help a woman I don't know, but I identify with her very much. I didn't and won't do it... Can't save the world... She's not a friend of mine, though.
Let's start by saying it's none of your fricking business, Miss OP
She might think she wanted to marry him at the first date. He may not have had the same feelings.
As long as the situation is concerned in a 2-dimensional point of view, he is just juggling his options and he has the right to find the right woman "he" wants to marry.
It's a problem if it's post engagement or marriage. But what's the big deal?
You're intruding into other people's lives and just making drama out of it. You may fancy the idea of being the saviour and the best friend in need for your other friends. But, for Pete's sake, let people sort out their own dating issues
,,,I know it would be easier to say nothing.... But let's say they get married and have 2 kids. It's 3 years from now. She finds out he has been cheating all this time and leaves him. But you knew all along. She will probably have to move in with you till she gets her life straightened out.
It is not cheating if they are not married. The OP already said the woman was ready to wed on the first date so it is obvious she is not sane or is off her meds.
Putting myself in your friend's shoes, I would definitely want to know!!! If you have sufficient facts that it's the same guy...then tell her the facts and she can decide what to do from there. There are also ways that this guy could be set up and called out on his actions, but that might be too extreme.
I would 100% tell your friend but I would be very careful how I went about it.
For a start I would ask your other friend for access to the emails that show that it is definitely him so that you can back up your story if she asks you to.
I would then tell her that you have something you are afraid to tell her but that you love her and want to do the right thing. Don't jump in with 'he's cheating on you!!', but instead tell her the story as you told it here and then let her come to her own conclusions.
Tell her you will respect her decision no matter what she decides to do and then stand by that.
Good luck, I know it's not fun but it's something you MUST do if this person is a friend. If I found out my friend had known about my SO cheating on me and hadn't told me I would never forgive them.
Let's start by saying it's none of your fricking business, Miss OP
She might think she wanted to marry him at the first date. He may not have had the same feelings.
As long as the situation is concerned in a 2-dimensional point of view, he is just juggling his options and he has the right to find the right woman "he" wants to marry.
It's a problem if it's post engagement or marriage. But what's the big deal?
You're intruding into other people's lives and just making drama out of it. You may fancy the idea of being the saviour and the best friend in need for your other friends. But, for Pete's sake, let people sort out their own dating issues
Are they just dating or are they in a committed relationship? If theyre casually dating then he is doing nothing wrong but if they are committed then she needs to cut all ties and you need to tell her the truth.
Are they just dating or are they in a committed relationship? If theyre casually dating then he is doing nothing wrong but if they are committed then she needs to cut all ties and you need to tell her the truth.
i've only met the guy once and it was when they had first started dating. by all accounts from her he is the "one" and is her BF.
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