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Girls with low self-esteem, (which I posted about in another thread), will often do this to guys that are of better quality than they're used to simply because they're intimidated by good because all they've ever had are relationships that were dumpster fires
Girls with low self-esteem, (which I posted about in another thread), will often do this to guys that are of better quality than they're used to simply because they're intimidated by good because all they've ever had are relationships that were dumpster fires
Maybe not everyone believes the friend zone exists but for those that do...why do you put certain men there?
Does it have to do with your attraction to the man?
Compatibility/Potential with the man based on personalities, traits, interests, beliefs, etc?
Availability? Maybe you're in a relationship...or he is in one...
Is it mainly one of these? All of the above? Something else?
I think it has to do with a woman liking a man, but as far as romance goes, she experiences ambivalence towards him. Hey, at least the Friend Zone helps him stay on the bench, if not in the game.
I'm attracted to a tiny minority of people, for different and unforeseeable reasons (X can be handsome and unattractive to me, terribly smart and unattractive to me, a wonderful human being and unattractive to me, nearly perfect and unattractive to me, etc.). All the rest are automatically put in the Friend Zone. Which is a great place to be, by the way.
Guys are in the "friend zone" for two reasons: when I first meet them and when I'm not interested in them. It takes a while for me to really like someone.
Guys are in the "friend zone" for two reasons: when I first meet them and when I'm not interested in them. It takes a while for me to really like someone.
So you are never attracted to a guy you initially meet?
So you are never attracted to a guy you initially meet?
No, I guess not. Some guys I've met are attractive, but I'm not attracted to them. I like getting to know them, but once I see how different they are from me, it's difficult to see them more than a friend. It completely stops my track of wanting to be more than friends. I seem to do this unconsciously.
To those that say men don't get anything out of being "just friends" with attractive women:
First of all, beautiful women will have lots of good looking friends. And as far as nightlife goes, your social value will be much higher if you roll in with a group of hot women. You sort of pass a test of being "good enough" to warrant the company of them. A guy coming into a club/bar with 5 of his male friends won't have this advantage. Instead they'll give off the predator vibe.
I've been LJBFed and it sucks but if she's being truthful in that she'd really like to be friends, why not take her up on that?
To those that say men don't get anything out of being "just friends" with attractive women:
First of all, beautiful women will have lots of good looking friends. And as far as nightlife goes, your social value will be much higher if you roll in with a group of hot women. You sort of pass a test of being "good enough" to warrant the company of them. A guy coming into a club/bar with 5 of his male friends won't have this advantage. Instead they'll give off the predator vibe.
I've been LJBFed and it sucks but if she's being truthful in that she'd really like to be friends, why not take her up on that?
Except that they never really truly mean they want to be friends.
"LJBF" is simply female code for "Get lost and never bother me again." In my own experience, it is just an excuse for them to dismiss you. But they almost always don't want to really be your "friend", either. At least, that's how it seems to work, here in D.C. anyway. I dunno about other places / regions though.
Would you rather them actually tell you to "get lost"?
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It takes a while for me to really like someone.
