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It comes from you being affected by your parents. If your parents didnt have a good relationship, or you didn't have a good relationship with them during ur childhood. In your adulthood you may struggle with having good rellationships.
You want a relationship because that is what life is, reproducing. Life started with self replicating bacteria. Life is still all about replication. Even though now we have contraceptives or sexless marriages or whatever, the driving force is for people to be with other people in a partnership manner. 1000 years later this will still be true.
Even in sweden, though they dont marry, people still commonly cohabitate and have children.
If you're independent having a relationship may not be what you want or should have. A relationship forces you to think about someone outside of yourself.
Usually one is fulfilled when they realize that they can stand on their own alone, feel good in their own skin, and they don't require a relationship to feel complete.
Thanks everyone I feel much better today than I did last night. It was just a mopey night all around.
Sometimes you're the ball, sometimes the bat.
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I just watch mindless, mundane stuff to give my mind a break from school.
OK - I was close, but I like my shots clean.
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I've gone through a major life change in the past year. School is restructuring my thought process. I'm in a constant state of flux and growth. I know this and question whether I should even attempt a relationship when I'm growing and changing at a rate akin to a toddler. I also question whether a marriage is what I want. I will have a career that will take a lot of my time and energy and I'm just not sure that I'm going to want to "make" time for a relationship. I'm glad you found what you were looking for though.
Points to you for the realization. Now DO something about it.
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I'm just having some trouble figuring out why I want a relationship on one level and don't on another? Is it because society tells us we aren't "complete" without another person? Are some people better suited to single life? How many people get married and/or have children because they feel like they "should" and not because they want that life?
/deep thoughts.
So many posts on this - and other - forums are just opinions. Public opinion can be swayed by the right use of levers. One of the levers they use is shame, as in "Shame on you for not dating yet! Shame on you for not being barefoot, pregnant and married!"
When you know the enemies' tools, you can turn those tools against them.
The answer I think is to know yourself so well that you automatically take the right action at the right time, or not at all. Either choice should be generated from YOU, not from your environment.
i came to this realization tonight... i've teetered on the edge of it before and others have suggested to me that i do this, but i kind of decided tonight that it's true. i either choose men who are not long-term material, that have some flaw (cheaters, liars, PTSD, commitmentphobe, ex-drama, do something i could never live with, like smoke) or that i react/behave subconsciously in ways that drive men away.
my realization tonight was that part of me, deep down, is codependent, just like my mother, and that the rest of me realizes this and chases away or chooses poorly in an effort not to repeat her poor choices.
i came to this realization tonight... i've teetered on the edge of it before and others have suggested to me that i do this, but i kind of decided tonight that it's true. i either choose men who are not long-term material, that have some flaw (cheaters, liars, PTSD, commitmentphobe, ex-drama, do something i could never live with, like smoke) or that i react/behave subconsciously in ways that drive men away.
my realization tonight was that part of me, deep down, is codependent, just like my mother, and that the rest of me realizes this and chases away or chooses poorly in an effort not to repeat her poor choices.
Maybe there is some part of you that feels you are not worthy of the love of a good man?
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I feel much better today than I did last night. It was just a mopey night all around.
