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I believe buying a drink some random woman you meet in a bar is not a good idea. The idea behind it is that you're just trying to get something from the woman (in this case, her time). By buying a drink for a stranger, a guy is seeking approval from her. As if her time is worth more than yours
I'm not a woman but this seems like VERY unattractive behavior.
Doing nice things for your SO is great! But why for a complete stranger?
I think the same principle is behind complimenting a random woman. By doing so, you're not being sincere. Just trying to gain her approval and another instance of putting someone on a pedestal.
I know both of these approaches work sometimes, but they don't seem like very good actions. Women: if this has/does work on you, why? Men:what do you think about this?
Honest answer: it depends on what the guy who's buying looks like. If he is fugly, the drink will not be well received. If he is handsome or really polished, it will be.
I believe buying a drink some random woman you meet in a bar is not a good idea. The idea behind it is that you're just trying to get something from the woman (in this case, her time). By buying a drink for a stranger, a guy is seeking approval from her. As if her time is worth more than yours
I'm not a woman but this seems like VERY unattractive behavior.
Doing nice things for your SO is great! But why for a complete stranger?
I think the same principle is behind complimenting a random woman. By doing so, you're not being sincere. Just trying to gain her approval and another instance of putting someone on a pedestal.
I know both of these approaches work sometimes, but they don't seem like very good actions. Women: if this has/does work on you, why? Men:what do you think about this?
But that is how it goes normally. Generally speaking, it is men who take the approach, the initiative, etc. and therefore buying her a drink seems to be the norm in that kind of environment. When it comes to dating, same thing. If the couple becomes steady, gone out for a couple of months or years, passed the initial stages, or are married, a woman will maybe be more likely to start reciprocating like splitting the tip or something. Sexist or not, that's how it seems to go specially in western countries.
The same goes for girls buying guys drinks. If she's not that attractive, then it won't be well-received.
I had a demoralizing experience this weekend. I saw a cute guy and I ended up buying him a drink, hoping that we could strike up some conversation. He ended up thanking me for the drink but telling me point blank that he wasn't interested and, even though I seemed like a nice person, he wasn't attracted to me.
It really depends on the person's level of attraction to you.
I believe buying a drink some random woman you meet in a bar is not a good idea. The idea behind it is that you're just trying to get something from the woman (in this case, her time). By buying a drink for a stranger, a guy is seeking approval from her. As if her time is worth more than yours
I'm not a woman but this seems like VERY unattractive behavior.
Doing nice things for your SO is great! But why for a complete stranger?
I think the same principle is behind complimenting a random woman. By doing so, you're not being sincere. Just trying to gain her approval and another instance of putting someone on a pedestal.
I know both of these approaches work sometimes, but they don't seem like very good actions. Women: if this has/does work on you, why? Men:what do you think about this?
When I meet a female stranger at a night spot and we are having a good time, if I decide to get another drink, I always offer to get one for her too. A lot of people say you should never buy drinks for girls. In my opinion as long as you're not doing it to compensate for something it will not be looked at as just seeking her approval, but rather accomodating.
Shouldn't buy a drink expecting her to do backflips for you just because you did that either. Why not simply approach her and start a conversation without buying her anything?
I don't understand why anyone would buy a stranger girl (or guy) a drink. Just walk up and talk to them, jeez. Same with complimenting them. Plus I'm cheap, ain't no way I'm spending a few bucks for drinks for some strange girl.
Honest answer: it depends on what the guy who's buying looks like. If he is fugly, the drink will not be well received. If he is handsome or really polished, it will be.
Thanks for the honesty! So basically if you're already attracted to the guy then you see it as a good gesture?
I'm not sure it really matters either way. If you feel like buying someone a drink, do so. If not, starting a conversation works fine too. Compliments, I think, are different. There's nothing lost by paying someone a genuine compliment and if it gives them a momentary lift, great.
i think its nice when a man you dont know buys you a drink and does not expect anything from it.
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