Please register to participate in our discussions with 2 million other members - it's free and quick! Some forums can only be seen by registered members. After you create your account, you'll be able to customize options and access all our 15,000 new posts/day with fewer ads.
I think you spent a little too much money to begin with...4 dates + the beach? keep things simple next time, qualify her more before you think about spending some $$ (and do it within 3 dates!).
definitely aware of this now. i knew girls were all about the atm receipt but my goodness. so much for women's lib i guess.
When I dated, I always offered to pay on every date - especially in the beginning since I don't really know the guy that well yet. Not all women are like the one you just dated. Please don't become one of this bitter guys who thinks that all women are gold diggers. Not only is that completely erroneous - but it's going to completely ruin you for any good women out there.
But I do agree with the other posters that something is a bit off with what she said - given that gold diggers probably don't go for teacher. And I also agree that you shouldn't spend that much on someone in the beginning - take your time and get to know someone before you pull out all the stops! Then you won't have wasted your time and money on someone who doesn't deserve it!
hmmm...guys want good looks and expect women to not have standards as well? As soon as women have criteria that seems unreasonable to the opposite sex, it is a disgrace? very interesting. last time i checked, real men pay for dates.If you cant afford a steak house, go to mD's, but atleast pay for her dollar meal. cheapo's. Im sure you men have "criteria" that women dont like. I shouldnt even have to make this point to grown men of any standard on an internet board , jesus.
I call BS on this one:
Side bar: I had a date with a new chick yesterday that ended up lasting over 12 hours. We grabed somethign to eat 3x... and she didn't spend a thing.
That said, if she hadn't TRIED... there wouldn't be a 2nd date.
I don't suffer gold diggers, and that's NOT 'Standards' that's Using someone.
I used to NEVER let them pay... now, within the first few dates I'll let them pay 1x... to see if they are worthless users or a decent person who doesn't just want to use you as a "Daddy Warbux"
It's "Unreasonable that we do not CONSTANTLY and WITHOUT FAIL pay for the 'privilege of your company'!
WTF ever!
Chicks like that... keep stepin.
Last edited by JustJulia; 07-23-2011 at 12:03 PM..
Just ended a "relationship" with a girl who ended it by texting me saying she needs a guy who pays for things the majority of the time. Keep in mind I paid for the first 4 dates, a weekend trip to the beach for two and this past weekend she paid for waffle house and then we split a meal at panera bread. a few hours later after panera she texts me saying she needs a guy who pays for the majority of the dates. i didn't realize that her paying for waffle house was too much for her haha. i'm a teacher and make a king's ransom obviously ;-). i also drove us everywhere and would buy her random things like cigarettes, wine, even cooked meals at her place i bought everything from the grocery store.
so ladies how long into a dating do you start paying?
hmmm...guys want good looks and expect women to not have standards as well? As soon as women have criteria that seems unreasonable to the opposite sex, it is a disgrace? very interesting. last time i checked, real men pay for dates. If you cant afford a steak house, go to mD's, but atleast pay for her dollar meal. cheapo's. Im sure you men have "criteria" that women dont like. I shouldnt even have to make this point to grown men of any standard on an internet board , jesus.
Well, women, or at least some of us, want looks as well. I would be uncomfortable with a guy paying for me. It's ok if he pays one time, and I pay the next. Otherwise, there's a serious imbalance of power there. I don't like people paying my way for anything. It makes me uncomfortable. I think it's best for one or both to prepare a picnick lunch at home and head to the park or just grab coffee. Maybe go to the movies where one person picks up the tickets and the other buys drinks and popcorn.
Reminds me of a lady from The Baggage show where her biggest baggage was that she must have a guy who will pay for all of her expenses. The guy who made it to the last round said no because he can't be with someone who expects the men to pay for everything. I like it that he pays first, but I pay next time.
hmmm...guys want good looks and expect women to not have standards as well? As soon as women have criteria that seems unreasonable to the opposite sex, it is a disgrace? very interesting. last time i checked, real men pay for dates. If you cant afford a steak house, go to mD's, but atleast pay for her dollar meal. cheapo's. Im sure you men have "criteria" that women dont like. I shouldnt even have to make this point to grown men of any standard on an internet board , jesus.
This may be a troll but I'll respond anyway. Most men who date are most likely able to pay for dates and such. However, it's a nice gesture if a woman pays or offers to pay because it shows character. I understand the old fashioned way of thinking, but I'm in my mid 20s and most women I've dated would offer to pay at some point. The days of men being expected to pay for everything are pretty much gone.
Please register to post and access all features of our very popular forum. It is free and quick. Over $68,000 in prizes has already been given out to active posters on our forum. Additional giveaways are planned.
Detailed information about all U.S. cities, counties, and zip codes on our site: City-data.com.
Please register to participate in our discussions with 2 million other members - it's free and quick! Some forums can only be seen by registered members. After you create your account, you'll be able to customize options and access all our 15,000 new posts/day with fewer ads.
