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Old 12-23-2012, 05:12 PM
 
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I've never let a woman pay for a date and never would
Have you ever had one offer to pay??
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Old 12-23-2012, 05:13 PM
 
Location: OC/LA, California
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Here's a question for you: why do you feel that it's okay for men to shell out money for you with no reciprocation?
I pay after we're in a committed relationship. But while we're still dating and not bf/gf, guys pay. That's how I've been dating. My ex bfs paid for about six months then we got into a relationship then I started paying. I dated a guy and we were never in a committed relationship. We dated for seven months and he paid the whole time. A guy I dated for a year on and off and he paid all the time.
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Old 12-23-2012, 05:16 PM
 
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I split tabs with friends, dates are different. It's a different dynamic and if a man is interested in me, he won't go online and anonymously ***** about being out $20. Not all old fashioned manners are out dated.
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Old 12-23-2012, 05:17 PM
 
Location: OC/LA, California
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My question is, knowing the girl didn't pay in the past after a few dates would you still ask her out knowing you would pay again for the future dates?
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Old 12-23-2012, 05:19 PM
 
Location: ATL
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Men, you should not spend over $40 on a date. The cheaper the better. The purpose of a date is to get to know that person and not to feed her. Wait until you are official before a real date
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Old 12-23-2012, 05:38 PM
 
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My friends and I were discussing about this. Apparently, one of my friends never paid for any dates even she's already in a committed relationship with a guy. I on the other hand doesn't pay till I'm in a committed relationship. I think whoever does the asking out will have to pay and I don't ask a guy out till were officially bf/gf (I almost once but had to think it twice and it didn't happen). Another friend pays even if it was the guy who ask her to hang out. She pays for the whole bill or pays half.

I went out with a guy for seven months and he paid for all our dates. I currently seeing a dude and the last five dates he paid. All the other guys I've been out with, they paid for our dates. I don't mind paying but only if I'm in a committed relationship with that person I'm dating and if I'm the one asking the person out.

So I wonder, after how many dates does a girl start paying half or paying for the whole date?

I need an honest opinion from guys. Do you find it rude if girls don't pay or don't offer to pay and no matter how much you like her you would stop seeing her? Or you don't mind paying all the time so long you spend time with a girl you really like?
There is no rigid rule. If I've gone out with someone many times and she has not even made an attempt to pay (and I get the sense she just expects me to pay), it's a red flag. This would not mean automatically ending things, but it's not a good sign.

If I really liked a girl and she offered to pay but I preferred to cover the costs, I would continue to see her.
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Old 12-23-2012, 05:50 PM
 
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If she doesn't offer to pay, or at least split the bill on the third date, I will ask for separate checks and gauge her reaction. If we are dating after that, she should be paying her share.

I'm not interested in paying the way of another.

If I'm on a bad first date, I always ask for separate checks. Sometimes, the look of shock and anger is priceless.
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Old 12-23-2012, 06:00 PM
 
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I've never allowed a guy I didn't know very well to continuously feed me and pay for me. If he spends money on this or that, I'm picking up the next expense. There's no asking him about it. With that said, the vast majority of my "dates" as a 20-something were hiking, going to a party, dancing, whatever. Very few dinners or expenses to be had.
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Old 12-23-2012, 07:14 PM
 
Location: a primitive state
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I just asked my husband, (the definitive manly man) who said nowadays it should be more or less equal. He's about as chivalrous and old fashioned as you can get -- but he says the days of men paying for everything is over. Granted, he did pay for almost everything when we first started dating, though he'd let me pick up the tab or pay half on casual dates.

So the answer is that a woman should offer and be prepared to pay from the get go.
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Old 12-24-2012, 07:14 AM
 
Location: ATL
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