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Old 12-25-2012, 12:55 AM
 
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This is dumb. Young childless women in large metropolitan areas make on average 8% more than men now. In a few cities they make as much as 20% more! Women absolutely should be paying for their fair share! They wanted equality and this means giving up the female privilege of men paying for dates.
Then men should bring this up clearly when he meets a woman. If it isn't brought up and he pays anyway...his problem.

There was another thread about this recently....why don't men clearly state that this is their preference.

Hmmm...
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Old 12-25-2012, 09:52 AM
 
Location: Tha 6th Bourough
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Eh, if you believe most younger women are like that, it would seem you are attracted to a narrow spectrum of women.
You know how many times I've heard or overheard a woman complain to their pals that the guy did not even pay for the meal on the date? They talk about offering sometimes, but if a woman paid 'all' of the time they most likely wouldn't stick around with the guy they kept paying for, and this is why I'm saying that society and the feminist movement has pushed for equality, but the mentality in dating isn't really equal in general because a guy would pay 'all' the time for dates and never expect a woman to pay. It would be very rare to have a guy leave a woman because she didn't pay for a single date. As for me personally I beleive in paying all the time because I grew up when guys still held doors open for women ect...but I get tired of the new generation asking where all the good guys are as they get mad after having to pay for 3 out of 7 dates...Why are you mad, when you have equal rights now? You can't expect everything to be equal when it comes to the things you want to be equal, but then get rid of the things that don't benefit you. You can't pick and choose equality.
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Old 12-25-2012, 10:27 AM
 
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This has come up multiple times on this forum. I think guys should always pay for all dates. I guess I'm just old-fashioned about these kinds of things. Women can reciprocate by cooking meals, buying gifts, that sort of thing -- guys should pay for dates though. At some point, when the relationship is serious enough that the couple is splitting bills and sharing living expenses, then I guess it's to the point where both are contributing financially. Before that though, guys pay for the pleasure of the woman's company. I don't think that's prostitution.. that's just being a gentleman. If a woman goes to the trouble of putting herself together and clearing her calendar, she should be treated.
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Old 12-25-2012, 11:16 AM
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Location: Tall Building down by the river
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This has come up multiple times on this forum. I think guys should always pay for all dates. I guess I'm just old-fashioned about these kinds of things. Women can reciprocate by cooking meals, buying gifts, that sort of thing -- guys should pay for dates though. At some point, when the relationship is serious enough that the couple is splitting bills and sharing living expenses, then I guess it's to the point where both are contributing financially. Before that though, guys pay for the pleasure of the woman's company. I don't think that's prostitution.. that's just being a gentleman. If a woman goes to the trouble of putting herself together and clearing her calendar, she should be treated.

Does the guy get anything on his birthday or christmas?
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Old 12-25-2012, 11:37 AM
 
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This has come up multiple times on this forum. I think guys should always pay for all dates. I guess I'm just old-fashioned about these kinds of things. Women can reciprocate by cooking meals, buying gifts, that sort of thing -- guys should pay for dates though. At some point, when the relationship is serious enough that the couple is splitting bills and sharing living expenses, then I guess it's to the point where both are contributing financially. Before that though, guys pay for the pleasure of the woman's company. I don't think that's prostitution.. that's just being a gentleman. If a woman goes to the trouble of putting herself together and clearing her calendar, she should be treated.
I'll bet that you have more luck with dating than your "let's go dutch" pals.
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Old 12-25-2012, 11:37 AM
 
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Does the guy get anything on his birthday or christmas?
He may get a gift, but more importantly he'll get the attention and affection of a woman he likes.
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Old 12-25-2012, 11:41 AM
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He may get a gift, but more importantly he'll get the attention and affection of a woman he likes.

What about emotional support? Or is that only for the woman to receive?
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Old 12-25-2012, 11:47 AM
 
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I'll bet that you have more luck with dating than your "let's go dutch" pals.
I have been with my wife since I was 14, Lisa, so I don't really know how I'd do in the dating world. I do know that I love women and appreciate their company. In addition to appreciating the time I spend with my wife, I also enjoy hanging out with my sisters, female co-workers and friends. Women are awesome. I realize many, if not most, of them go to a lot of trouble to be attentive to the people in their lives (male and female), so it's nice to see when a female friend finds a guy who treats her right. I couldn't imagine pestering a woman I was dating with a tab or bill. Maybe if I hated sex and enjoyed awkward moments, I'd do that but otherwise .. nah, I'd just pick up the tab to let the woman know I appreciated all of the trouble she took to look nice and act sweet.
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Old 12-25-2012, 11:51 AM
 
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What about emotional support? Or is that only for the woman to receive?
Women usually provide WAY more emotional support than men, TV. I have a lot of female and male friends. The females are MUCH more supportive. That's just what women do. If you share your problems with a male friend, his attention will probably wander off in the middle of it. If you share your problems with a female friend, she's likely to bring it up days later and have words of encouragement or advice. I think women deserve special perks and attention because of this trait actually. I take more care with my female friends because they usually take more care with me. That's not even talking romantic involvement. If I like a woman enough to be romantically invovled with her, I like her enough to never bring up money .. ever. I will pay each and every time. Of course, I wouldn't be dating a woman I felt was taking advantage of that.
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Old 12-25-2012, 11:56 AM
 
Location: Albuquerque, NM
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This has come up multiple times on this forum. I think guys should always pay for all dates. I guess I'm just old-fashioned about these kinds of things. Women can reciprocate by cooking meals, buying gifts, that sort of thing -- guys should pay for dates though. At some point, when the relationship is serious enough that the couple is splitting bills and sharing living expenses, then I guess it's to the point where both are contributing financially. Before that though, guys pay for the pleasure of the woman's company. I don't think that's prostitution.. that's just being a gentleman. If a woman goes to the trouble of putting herself together and clearing her calendar, she should be treated.
Why do you feel this way? For any reason other that 'tradition'?
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