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Personally, I would be very leery of a man who kept tabs on everything he bought and whatnot, during the early days of a courtship.
I don't expect to be "wined and dined", but I also don't expect to get the "bill" for all of this thrown in my face.
Early on, my bf tried to pull this on me. I asked him, point blank, "do you REALLY want to go there?". If we're going to start nickel and diming things, I can bring up a whole heck of a lot. I don't, because, fundamentally, I do not believe that it's necessary or beneficial to a relationship. He caught my drift, and left it be. Smart man.
There's so much that goes into this. For me, if I were to ask the guy, it would generally be understood that I would be paying. However, if he was in a better financial position, I would expect that as a *gentleman* he would offer to pay. (And, the same would go in reverse. Right now, I'm a better position than my bf, so I would, of course, offer to pay.)
Honestly, I would be leery of a guy who was into this "quid pro quo" thing, because that's not where I come from.
Just ended a "relationship" with a girl who ended it by texting me saying she needs a guy who pays for things the majority of the time. Keep in mind I paid for the first 4 dates, a weekend trip to the beach for two and this past weekend she paid for waffle house and then we split a meal at panera bread. a few hours later after panera she texts me saying she needs a guy who pays for the majority of the dates. i didn't realize that her paying for waffle house was too much for her haha. i'm a teacher and make a king's ransom obviously ;-). i also drove us everywhere and would buy her random things like cigarettes, wine, even cooked meals at her place i bought everything from the grocery store.
so ladies how long into a dating do you start paying?
Smart move bro. More men need to wise up and stop wining and dining these gold-digging broads
Nah...women need to wise up and stop digging in empty hills.
No matter what people believe about who should pay, the woman described in the OP was tacky. Breaking up with a man over text and saying what she did showed no class at all.
Just ended a "relationship" with a girl who ended it by texting me saying she needs a guy who pays for things the majority of the time. Keep in mind I paid for the first 4 dates, a weekend trip to the beach for two and this past weekend she paid for waffle house and then we split a meal at panera bread. a few hours later after panera she texts me saying she needs a guy who pays for the majority of the dates. i didn't realize that her paying for waffle house was too much for her haha. i'm a teacher and make a king's ransom obviously ;-). i also drove us everywhere and would buy her random things like cigarettes, wine, even cooked meals at her place i bought everything from the grocery store.
so ladies how long into a dating do you start paying?
I'm really curious about the weekend trip to the beach and how the waffle house and panera meal came about. Did she offer to take you to the waffle house? And whose idea was it to split a meal at panera bread?
The way you explained it was vague but it sounds like you might have hinted to her to pick up the waffle house tab and split the bill at panera?
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