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Old 12-25-2012, 01:42 PM
 
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I tried that once with my ex bf on his invitation but when it progressed towards relationship status, it got ridiculous to the point of not even wishing me a happy b-day or getting nothing for Christmas while I had prepared him a present. It's like ever since I did the so-called 50/50 on his invitation, he got used to splitting the bill all the time, on every single date. It got annoying and that's part of reason I broke up in the end.

To make matters worst, for my birthday, he decided to split the bill with the $50 he gave me for my day. So was like ''Let's split the bill, give me the $50 I gave you and I''ll pay this time''. On my damn b-day..

No more again will I offer on a guy's first invitation.

You were dealing with a jerk. Nothing good comes from relationships with these type of guys. Choose better next time.
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Old 12-25-2012, 01:43 PM
 
Location: Albuquerque, NM
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I tried that once with my ex bf on his invitation but when it progressed towards relationship status, it got ridiculous to the point of not even wishing me a happy b-day or getting nothing for Christmas while I had prepared him a present. It's like ever since I did the so-called 50/50 on his invitation, he got used to splitting the bill all the time, on every single date. It got annoying and that's part of reason I broke up in the end.

To make matters worst, for my birthday, he decided to split the bill with the $50 he gave me for my day. So was like ''Let's split the bill, give me the $50 I gave you and I''ll pay this time''. On my damn b-day..

No more again will I offer on a guy's first invitation.
Once I went out with a 'traditional' woman who expected the man to pay.

She was also not a good match for me in totally unrelated ways
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Old 12-25-2012, 01:46 PM
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Location: Tall Building down by the river
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If a woman gets to repay back with sex and affection and cooking then all the dates should be in my apartment
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Old 12-25-2012, 01:46 PM
 
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Wow. No other response.
Oh lord, that is hilarious. I was not trying to be racist AT ALL, USA. I was born in a very diverse area, work in a very diverse career field and live in a very diverse neighborhood. It's no secret that there are some cultural differences between blacks and whites. These get discussed ad naseum almost daily by the blacks and whites I work with during the course of a typical day. You seem genuinely shocked by where I'm coming from... from that, my guess is that we're either different ages or different ethnicities because where I'm coming from isn't all that weird unusual. In fact, I was first shocked when I heard people expressing views like yours .. but from hours of conversation, I've learned .. just a different way of doing things and looking at things.
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Old 12-25-2012, 01:47 PM
 
Location: Aventura FL
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Yes that is interesting, as views usually split rather hard down racial lines when this comes up in a group of men.
Dude, knock it off.
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Old 12-25-2012, 01:48 PM
 
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Once I went out with a 'traditional' woman who expected the man to pay.

She was also not a good match for me in totally unrelated ways
Then that's your answer. Find a woman that's on your same page, one that would be ok doing 50/50 on every single date regardless of who does the asking out.
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Old 12-25-2012, 01:52 PM
 
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You were dealing with a jerk. Nothing good comes from relationships with these type of guys. Choose better next time.
Yeah I know better now. I was just a beginner then and it was my first relationship at the same time too.
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Old 12-25-2012, 01:52 PM
 
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Yes, I find it rude. I've been seeing a woman for a few weeks now. We've gone out (also stayed in) maybe 10 times. She paid once.

But she's damn good in bed, so what am I gonna do?
If you are smart you will recognize a good thing and continue to pay until she offers.You don't want to blow this.
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Old 12-25-2012, 01:54 PM
 
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I understand it's from an era when women had less power and property than men, but I still like it. To me it's just being a good gentleman with good manners to not discuss money on a date.
Yes Yes Yes -smart man.
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Old 12-25-2012, 01:55 PM
 
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Dude, knock it off.
Knock what off? The sad thing is I'm probably the only guy on this thread (black or white) who regularly interacts with both blacks and whites, at work, at home, in the neighborhood, at the park, etc. Yeah, newsflash folks: blacks and whites often have different views about these kinds of things. Race didn't even occur to me on this thread until USA said something to the effect of "dude, what's wrong with you?? how can you even think like that???" ... then I started mentally rehearsing, oh yeah, I get that in conversations from black guys (and guys significantly younger than me) about dating .. in fact, in mixed racial company, there are usually rather strong differences of opinion.. again, along racial lines. I find it f'ing hilarious that that is taboo to say. Sorry folks, you're not going to shame me by implying racism. I come from way too diverse of a background for that nonsense.
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