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OP's post just reminds me to hug my wonderful boyfriend. (shame on me for doubting him) He always pays for everything because he makes so much more than I do.
As a woman, I'll usually let the guy pay for the first couple of dates, but will offer to at least buy a round of drinks so he knows I'm not trying to take advantage of him.
I just met a guy, and we're going on Date #3 next week. On the first date, I bought a round of drinks at one of the places we went. On the second date, I paid for the cab fare between places. He paid for everything else.
Since I initiated Date #3, I'm planning on offering to pay for the majority of it. If he's uncomfortable with that and wants to pay, I'll let him but will at least buy us a round or two.
I think if you're having a good time and like the person you're out with, it's a good idea to show your appreciation/gratitude by at least offering to pay for something...
Relationships are 50/50. I pay for half and my bf or anyone else I date pays for the other half. I dont give handouts. People aren't charity cases and I'm not an ATM.
Relationships are 50/50. I pay for half and my bf or anyone else I date pays for the other half. I dont give handouts. People aren't charity cases and I'm not an ATM.
I agree. Once I'm in an "established relationship" (i.e. dating exclusively) with someone, then I have no problems splitting the bill... or, if he pays for one night out, I'll pay for the next one, etc.
It's a little trickier when you first start dating someone. That's why I try to at least offer to pay a portion, so that person knows I'm not being cheap and/or gold-digging.
On the first date men usually pay for everything, but I have a problem with letting a man pay for every date that follows. I don't need to be pampered by anyone. I have a job and I can afford to pay for things as well. I feel like it's very rude to expect a man to pay for everything on a date. I usually pay for about half of the date and sometimes I like to treat him as well.
On the first date men usually pay for everything, but I have a problem with letting a man pay for every date that follows. I don't need to be pampered by anyone. I have a job and I can afford to pay for things as well. I feel like it's very rude to expect a man to pay for everything on a date. I usually pay for about half of the date and sometimes I like to treat him as well.
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Why is it ok and not rude for him to pay on the first date, but it is a problem for every date that follows? I'm not understanding the difference between the two.
For the record, I'm in the "whoever extends the invite, pays for the date" camp.
My friends and I always joke that men who can't be bothered to open a door, or pay for dates, have no interest in getting laid.
the minute a woman starts paying for herself, she is allowing herself to be kept score on and to be taken advantage of and disrespected. I don't care how old fashioned and stupid that sounds. I'm living it right now after always dating guys who paid 100% of the time. Women are conditioned that men pay,we do things like cook for him and treat him in other non monetary ways. men are NOT conditioned that way if they are paid for. so the woman winds up paying for him and he does nothing! (not saying that's true for everyone..but in most cases it is). no way. I'll stick to my traditional ways of always being paid for.
My point is, regardless of income, the man always pays. If he can't afford to take the woman out, he gets creative and thoughtful if he wants to take her out. simple. as. that. I would honestly find the broke yet creative and thoughtful guy a lot more romantic than the guy who took me to fancy restaurants and dropped a ton of cash on me. blech. I've never liked arrogant rich guys anyways. reminds me of old sugar daddies.
You must not have read the thread the were women were proud of the fact that most women no longer know how to cook. It's 2013 women are not entitled to a damn thing.
Relationships are 50/50. I pay for half and my bf or anyone else I date pays for the other half. I dont give handouts. People aren't charity cases and I'm not an ATM.
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