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My future bride to be is a very dynamic women with excellent leadership qualities: Charismatic, dynamic, outspoken, strong willed, has a good sense of when things should get moving and great at directing and getting things done.
I find that extremely admirable since, in contrast my main strength is followership, that is executing other's agendas and directions, adding my two cents, and being supportive.
I think this will be great that we have these two opposite strengths since in our marriage, someone will be making the right decisions, keeping things on track, making sure things move smoothly and will have a good sense of what we should be focussing on.
However, it will also be great that I am willing to strive to put in the work and offer suggestion and follow well.
My questions are the following:
1. To any guys out there, have you ever or do you currently have a wife or girlfriend with excellent leadership qualities that you enjoy following and admire her for that.
2. If you are not in a relationship, would you prefer a traditional male leadership relationship, egalitarian relationship or one like the above.
3. To the women, have you ever seen any role reversal relationships like the one described above and how did theyw ork out.
I would tremendously appreciate your insights and opinions.
My parents were in this type of marriage for 27 years. My mother was always the leader and my father was the follower. It was difficult for my mom at times. She told me that sometimes she would wish to have a man by her side who would be the decision maker for at least some of the time.
If your bride is content with this type of dynamic, then it's great.
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Regardless the gender "roles" and "expectations", and how folks choose to sort all that out, it seems like it all still comes down to mutual respect. So does she appreciate your "supportiveness" as much as you appreciate her "assertiveness", or might there ever come a time when she simply takes it (and you) for granted... and loses respect for you? And how would you know?
My parents were in this type of marriage for 27 years. My mother was always the leader and my father was the follower. It was difficult for my mom at times. She told me that sometimes she would wish to have a man by her side who would be the decision maker for at least some of the time.
If your bride is content with this type of dynamic, then it's great.
Yeah, it gets old. While I like to do whatever I want as the next person, doing it yourself all the time becomes a drag.
Sounds to me like you are going to be wearing the skirt and she is going to be wearing the pants and your are not liking it as much as you like to admit.
Sounds to me like you are going to be wearing the skirt and she is going to be wearing the pants and your are not liking it as much as you like to admit.
Oh good grief. Did you ever hear of feminism? Well, guess what - it liberates men also.
OP, if it works and you are both happy with your roles with each other - and have discussed it so you are both clear, then just enjoy. Don't focus on how it works with others, focus on how you two will make it work for you. A marriage is a partnership and it is important for teamwork that you agree on what your roles are - egalitarian, power exchange, switching power, upside down, inside out - it's what you two decide is what will be best for you as individuals and as a couple.
Yes, I've known couples with differently empowered relationships who have been happy together for many years. Just remember there is no "I" in team.
I'm fascinated by powerful strong women..... getting a little tired of the same old bullshyt about men being intimidated by "strong" women, a bunch of horseshyt if you ask me....
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