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Old 08-23-2011, 10:17 PM
 
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So here's my crappy story. Almost 20 years old, never had a girl, never been on a date. I've actually had 2 chances with 2 different girls, but they kind of took me by surprise and I responded negatively or awkwardly and nothing ever happened. If I finally start improving socially at my new workplace and when I start learning a new trade when I start school in a few weeks, hopefully I can meet some girl and kick things off with her. Here are the stories where I had a chance...

During the year I was in college, I was walking out of the building looking at my cellphone (someone of you have probably already heard this story I told before) when there was this girl on a bench who was like "Hey, you have a cell, what's your number?" I was so confused, never had a girl talk to me like that before...I asked her if we knew each other, and her response was "No, but we can get to know each other..." I just gave her my number, in a confused way, not smiling or making a joke...It was really random and unexpected...I never expect a girl to make a move on me like that.

Then there was this one time at the restaurant I used to work at. There was a power failure in the restaurant and we all had to leave early. After I called a taxi and was going to give my hours to the off, this girl who I'm usually friendly with comes up to me and offers to give me a lift home. I told her I had already called a taxi, but thanked her for the offer. But it really flattered me that a girl was interested in me that way. She even asked me again another time right when my taxi had arrived, told her same thing...

So what do you guys think? Do I have a chance with girls or what? Do some of them seem interested? There's other girls who approached here and there over the last few years to make friendly chit chat, but nothing as "big" as the other 2 girls I mentioned...
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Old 08-23-2011, 11:03 PM
 
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Gather some confidence and get yourself a date! I'm sure youre a nice guy, next time, start a discussion if a woman approaches you.
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Old 08-23-2011, 11:08 PM
 
Location: Middle of the valley
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Nope. I stopped reading after "here is my crappy story....." I don't really associate with people that have bad attitudes in general. Sure, we all have bad times we go through, but you have to enjoy life. I hope you learn to.

Sorry.
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Old 08-23-2011, 11:24 PM
 
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Nope. I stopped reading after "here is my crappy story....." I don't really associate with people that have bad attitudes in general. Sure, we all have bad times we go through, but you have to enjoy life. I hope you learn to.

Sorry.
You don't have to enjoy life.
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Old 08-23-2011, 11:57 PM
 
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Men with low self esteem don't even know when women are coming on to them...they belong to the club, "Anyone who wants to join this club, must be a loser" mentality...

Until you improve your attitude, you won't get women.
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Old 08-23-2011, 11:59 PM
 
Location: New Zealand and Australia
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As long as you have a pulse there will always be interest from the opposite sex. I suggest you lower your standards, talk to more girls and ask more out.

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Old 08-24-2011, 10:27 AM
 
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Nope. I stopped reading after "here is my crappy story....." I don't really associate with people that have bad attitudes in general. Sure, we all have bad times we go through, but you have to enjoy life. I hope you learn to.

Sorry.

I'm with you on this one.

I met a person the other day and they only had negative things to say the entire huh... 5 minutes I talk... or listened to them.

I basically don't continue any sort of conversation with someone like that. I don't like that negativity. It WILL rub off on you and I choose not to get that sort of dirt on me if at all possible.
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Old 08-24-2011, 10:31 AM
 
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So here's my crappy story. Almost 20 years old, never had a girl, never been on a date. I've actually had 2 chances with 2 different girls, but they kind of took me by surprise and I responded negatively or awkwardly and nothing ever happened. If I finally start improving socially at my new workplace and when I start learning a new trade when I start school in a few weeks, hopefully I can meet some girl and kick things off with her. Here are the stories where I had a chance...

During the year I was in college, I was walking out of the building looking at my cellphone (someone of you have probably already heard this story I told before) when there was this girl on a bench who was like "Hey, you have a cell, what's your number?" I was so confused, never had a girl talk to me like that before...I asked her if we knew each other, and her response was "No, but we can get to know each other..." I just gave her my number, in a confused way, not smiling or making a joke...It was really random and unexpected...I never expect a girl to make a move on me like that.

Then there was this one time at the restaurant I used to work at. There was a power failure in the restaurant and we all had to leave early. After I called a taxi and was going to give my hours to the off, this girl who I'm usually friendly with comes up to me and offers to give me a lift home. I told her I had already called a taxi, but thanked her for the offer. But it really flattered me that a girl was interested in me that way. She even asked me again another time right when my taxi had arrived, told her same thing...

So what do you guys think? Do I have a chance with girls or what? Do some of them seem interested? There's other girls who approached here and there over the last few years to make friendly chit chat, but nothing as "big" as the other 2 girls I mentioned...
You have to be kidding me!!! Women are trying and you are turning them away!!!

You have to be in tune with what is going on man!! Sheesh!
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Old 08-24-2011, 10:37 AM
 
Location: NW. MO.
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Make a little effort to be more open, friendly, attentive and life will work out just fine.
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Old 08-24-2011, 03:28 PM
 
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Hey you even have a few chicks hitting on you! Read a few books on how men can talk to and relate to women. You are just a shy guy... Relax you can get plenty of women in your time.
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