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Did they date a week and never talk? How do you end up married and find out one partner will only eat one type of food, or that they expected you to quit working.
Yes, they rushed into things waaaay too fast. In the beginning they were out to impress and please each other, and were all lovey dovey...
Then got married and things changed. (aka reality)
Initially he had told her he didn't expect her to be a housewife, but then changed his mind because he didn't like her being away from the house and having male friends and such.
There were way more problems than just cultural differences but they certainly didn't help.
I live in a state mostly of minorities, a good deal from third world countries. And it can be quite trying at times, because a lot of them don't want to integrate.
15 people to a house, huge parties, drinking on the sidewalk in front of neighbors houses, yard's that look like dump sites, spitting in public.
One night one of those lovely homes had a party-goer wander down by my house. Stupid A peed on my SOs tire at the top of my driveway. He was quite surprised when he discovered my SO in the vehicle.
I live in a place full of immigrants too, however, this never happened to me, if anything it's been the other way round. Most of the immigrants in my area are usually highly educated although they might have come from third world countries themselves and are very law abiding, most seem to be very family oriented and are managers, doctors, lawyers and such.
I agree about the integration part though, most don't hang out at the local bars or mix much with the Americans around even when there's a game of football or so going on.
Whether or not it works out is entirely dependent upon a whole lot of variables, including but not limited to how the individuals themselves feel about not necessarily having a culture in common (can happen in relationships between people of the same nationality, as well), how either party's loved ones and friends feel about it AND how big of a role those people's opinions play in the individuals' lives.
I live in a place full of immigrants too, however, this never happened to me, if anything it's been the other way round. Most of the immigrants in my area are usually highly educated although they might have come from third world countries themselves and are very law abiding, most seem to be very family oriented and are managers, doctors, lawyers and such.
I agree about the integration part though, most don't hang out at the local bars or mix much with the Americans around even when there's a game of football or so going on.
yes because maybe they don't drink and may not be into football...nothing wrong with that
I think he means honour killings, forced marriages, etc. They do happen, you know. Or expecting your wife to just shut her mouth and open her legs because that's what his Neanderthal family/culture demands.
Those are mean comments...there are negative sin every culture and its not fair or respectful to point out the few bad things in another culture ad stereotype them...
what about all the teenage pregnancies and drugs and so many negatives things in the western world
and there are so many stereotypes about other cultures...many of these cultures respect and worship their women and the women actually have a better time than in the west...
i would not trust the biased media and ignorant perceptions of a few tourists to base one's ideas about other cultures
being semi-nude on the streets or having to live in and lose one's moral values is not a great way to live for a woman either...a lot of women suffer in the western world...if one makes a documentary focussed on the negatives in any culture its easy to believe stereotypes about them.
there are many men in the western world who do exactly what u stated in your post...thats why one has domestic violence help ...
A lot of people say "we're all the same." We are not.
From a biological POV, we really ARE the same: any pair of fertile humans (regardless of ethnicity) can produce a fertile offspring over 99% of the time.
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It depends, IMO, on many factors...
1. How "far apart" are he and she? If he's a WASP from New England and she's an upper-middle-class woman from London, the cultural differences may ultimately be minor. If he's a Jewish-American man from New York and she's an Argentine woman of Italian origins, the differences may be greater. If he's Mexican-American and she's an expatriate from Japan who speaks limited English and has been in the US for only 2 years, you may have a huge mountain to climb.
About #2: the female could had possible be part Jew, for many of the Italians and Germans who came to South America were Jews escaping WW1 and WWII, so their culture might not be THAT different. Source: my hubs worked in a place with several Argentinian and Brazilian people whose great grandparents were Jews (both of the Ashkenazi and Sephardi variety) escaping WW1 and 2. The bigger difference in here would be the language, but that's not always a big one. I looooooove how Argentinian people talk, BTW.
About #3: In the navy, I saw this pairing (Japanese woman, American dude of any ethnicity) with mixed results. When it turned bad, it was because the woman was usually after the benefits. However, these people produced some beautiful offsprings, and those offsprings would in turn produce even more gorgeous offsprings. I had a navy friend who was half and half (US navy dad, Japanese mom), and had a gorgeous daughter.
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In my experience, no, especially if the other person comes from a culture that is rigid by our standards or has a family who expects them to marry into their racial/religious/cultural circle.
Yes, if you can both learn to speak each other's languages. I have a Danish wife who thinks Danish and speaks English. She's impossible to understand (in English) since the two cultures are so far apart and I often have to rephrase her comments in Danish to see if I truly understand what she is driving at.
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