Dating Website Profiles and Online Dating Protocol (sociopaths, how to, ladies)
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One can probably shave it all off so it seems like baldness by choice. I have a friend who shaved his head by choice since his late teens and is always beating them away with a stick. Women always want to rub his head too. Ironically before he started shaving he wasn't getting as much attention, and he had a full head of hair.
I didn't get that when my head was shaved, but I wasn't losing my hair. Some guys just look better bald I guess.
So before you contact someone you don't want to know whether or not they are parents?
Let's analyse her paragraph:
"I have a good life and am independent." Positive outlook and not looking for a crutch.
"One child who is (15) yrs. old, honor student" Sounds like she is doing something right - child is an honour student
"and has a wonderful father in his life." Oooooo! On good terms with her ex (!!) How freakin' REFRESHING is that!
"We share 50-50." So not one of those hideous creatures that can't share her child with the ex. Double bonus.
"Anyone in my life would be a part of my son's life too and therefore needs to be an excellent role model." Looking for only decent role-model guys to expose her son to. Again, I don't see this as a negative.
I agree. I really see nothing wrong with that post. If a man had a similar ad, I would find it to be appealing, frankly.
Men don't think that way when reading those words. I put in bold what I would think, and some other men MAY think as well, but NOT ALL men this this way
If that is how you really interpreted that, then you should probably give up women completely.
Mentioning your children in your DATING ESSAY is crazy and I see everything wrong it.
If I was 15 and found out my mom included me in her dating ad I would be so annoyed
Didn't you get annoyed with a woman for not telling you soon enough she had kids. It was something where said woman did not disclose appropriately based upon the TVSG Dating Guide and Bible.
Didn't you say you went bald? Can't see how a man with male pattern baldness can be so physically attractive.
Are you SERIOUS? Damn. Some of my favorite hotties are bald.
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Originally Posted by WakaFlocka
I didn't get that when my head was shaved, but I wasn't losing my hair. Some guys just look better bald I guess.
You better believe it. One of them is my BF. He isn't bald, but he's losing his hair, so he shaves his head. Can't hardly keep my hands off of him after he gets a clean shave.
The only people the "no players" rant is filtering out are decent guys. They look at that and think "Man, this woman really has been involved with a lot of trash guys and is really pissed off. Probably deep down she really needs what they're selling or at least has continued to make the same mistake over and over again. In addition to sounding sort of off the deep end, she probably wouldn't mesh with me anyway." And the players she's complaining about? They see it like blood in the water. She's already admitted right in the profile their tricks have worked on her in the past.
I had an message exchange with a gal last night. Her biggest complaint is, how guys just want to sleep with her too soon. She also went on and on about the previous issues she's had with men.
Man, it was a rough ride. I told her, it sounds like you need to just chill out and stop trying to find someone for a while.
I felt bad for her. Once she told me her "story" and I looked at her photo again, she looked as sad as her story.
One thing that I have noticed about the is, many have great packaging but the goods on the inside are damaged. Unfortunately many men and women associate good looks with being a "quality person".
Online and in real life, on a scale of 1-10, 10 being the highest, you have a bunch of 5's thinking they are 10's in the personality department.
I always say, it's a bunch of avg. Joe's and Jane's thinking they are more than what they really are.
To those that are reading, NO, I am not talking about you should not have physical attraction, I am talking about people that think because they are good looking, they feel they DESERVE waaaay more than what they could possibly expect to give.
Just observe the way some women respond in real life to unattractive guys. You'll see a slight bit of snideness.
Unfortunately for a lot of guys, they put way to much effort into trying to acquire damaged goods and women in general. I always tell single guys, work on your career,wealth building and focus on doing the things you've always wanted to do....be it learn to fly a plane or ride a motorcycle. But don't put to much effort into chasing women. Guys, for some reason spend a great deal of time "auditioning" for women as if they are something special and unique.
Granted there are a lot of great women out there, but the most damaged are the most visible.
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Originally Posted by cdubs3201
In all fairness to the OP: I agree that stating the obvious and listing dealbreakers is a turnoff and is typically received negatively by men, even those who are not considered dealbreakers by the profile's listed criteria. This is human nature, we are attracted to positivity.
Sure, if you're having trouble finding someone and you've attracted numerous guys that happen to be seeking something that doesn't fit your idea of a relationship, then women have every right to state that.
But coming from a guy who has had positive and negative experiences for years in online dating....seeing the too honest deal breakers is just plain too negative for me and I just don't feel like applying. Why would I? You've obviously shown you have a bad attitude about the online dating (possibly with good reason) but you haven't met me and I already feel like I'm down a few points and would have to "earn" my way back to even with you. I know it's easy to generalize and let bad experiences bitter us, but the key is to keep an open mind and treat each person with a fresh start.
I think most people struggle with online dating. Good men have a hard time getting a response rate to keep them interested and they often get frustrated, and tend to LOWER their standards because they start to think they can't do any better and will take what they can get.
I think women are bombarded by so many emails that they tend to focus on the negative guys who throw out rude one-liners and only are looking for sex, yet they aren't entertained enough by guys who write sincere emails and pass them up. Or they go on a couple dates with guys they thought to be good candidates only to find something incompatible or are freaked out in some way or another. These negative experiences can sometimes bitter women and they tend to INCREASE their standards to try and filter out men in an attempt to protect themselves from another bad experience. In my opinion: they're only hurting themselves by shrinking their criteria, but I understand the justification.
This is why it's just too hard for me to take online dating seriously anymore. I've been approaching it lately with a mix of one-liners and a twist of humor/sarcasm that fits my personality. So far I'm seeing much better response rate and a lot less effort needed on my part. I've been through enough disappointments and flakes to where I don't get excited about it anymore. If I feel like throwing out some emails or texting/calling/dating a girl then I'll go with it, but any extra effort that is to be demanded from me is surely going to be absent in this process.
I've put myself out there enough times and I've been burned. Most of the women on these sites aren't worth any extra work or effort. I'll proposition and entertain possible opportunities to meet women through the site, but the days of trying to impress, go the extra length, or go out of my way to inconvenience myself for any of these dates is something that is long over with.
One thing that I have noticed about the is, many have great packaging but the goods on the inside are damaged. Unfortunately many men and women associate good looks with being a "quality person".
Online and in real life, on a scale of 1-10, 10 being the highest, you have a bunch of 5's thinking they are 10's in the personality department.
I always say, it's a bunch of avg. Joe's and Jane's thinking they are more than what they really are.
To those that are reading, NO, I am not talking about you should not have physical attraction, I am talking about people that think because they are good looking, they feel they DESERVE waaaay more than what they could possibly expect to give.
Just observe the way some women respond in real life to unattractive guys. You'll see a slight bit of snideness.
Unfortunately for a lot of guys, they put way to much effort into trying to acquire damaged goods and women in general. I always tell single guys, work on your career,wealth building and focus on doing the things you've always wanted to do....be it learn to fly a plane or ride a motorcycle. But don't put to much effort into chasing women. Guys, for some reason spend a great deal of time "auditioning" for women as if they are something special and unique.
Granted there are a lot of great women out there, but the most damaged are the most visible.
I agree more men should "Audition" women as if they were screening for a job, and not someone to throw on a pedestal. They should make it quick and brief as well. Too many suckers love playing the white knight, but all they do is bring unnecessary drama into their life (and waste time).
What person made it past 15 thinking that good looking = good person?!
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