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Old 08-28-2011, 02:06 PM
 
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Me, I not sure, but most likely no. If a man marries someone who's divorced, likelihood is she'll divorce him too for no apparent reason.
My best friend married a guy who divorced twice! But, they've been together more than 12 years now, have a child, and are deeply in love. They have the best relationship I know of.
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Old 08-28-2011, 05:44 PM
 
Location: Oxnard, CA
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My best friend married a guy who divorced twice! But, they've been together more than 12 years now, have a child, and are deeply in love. They have the best relationship I know of.
One of my coworkers has been married three times....third time was the charm...he's been married to a beautiful woman over 20 years and they have two great kids...sometimes you just never know!
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Old 08-28-2011, 06:23 PM
 
Location: CA
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Yes, but I would be careful about how soon you date them after their divorce. I consistently see problems when divorced people date & even marry only a year or so after their divorce. Most people need time to heal & jumping into a new relationship too soon is like a band-aid on a deep wound.

In addition to knowing why their divorce took place, I also would want to hear the person acknowledge some areas they could improve on in relationships, what they learned from their previous marriage, etc. If they place blame 100% on the other party or fail to be able to acknowledge where they could have done better in the marriage, then it could be a red flag. They may have a victim mentality and/or drag the same issues into their next relationship.

But nothing is black & white, so I'd be open to giving someone a chance.
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Old 08-28-2011, 07:37 PM
 
Location: NY metro area
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I married a divorced man.
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Old 08-28-2011, 07:49 PM
 
Location: Tucson
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I married a divorced man.
It doesn't sound like he has kids from his previous marriage, though, does he?
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Old 08-28-2011, 07:56 PM
 
Location: NY metro area
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It doesn't sound like he has kids from his previous marriage, though, does he?
Nope, no kiddos from the previous marriage.
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Old 08-28-2011, 07:56 PM
 
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Yes, I would.
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Old 08-28-2011, 08:09 PM
 
Location: Tucson
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Nope, no kiddos from the previous marriage.
I thought so. He can't afford you all!
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Old 08-29-2011, 06:38 AM
 
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Depending on how many times a person has been divorced would be evaluated on a case by case basis. I am personally divorced & 30. He and I were just not right for eachother. We were together for 10 years, married for 3. If someone chose not to date me simply because I was divorced -- in my eyes they aren't worth it.

This depends alot of the situation - Someone who is young, married / divorced in less than a year. Yeah probably I'd stay away from that. I'd be more likely to date someone older who was in one relationship for many years. Of course this also depends on WHY the divorce occured. so really, this question is nearly impossible to answer.
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Old 08-29-2011, 06:47 AM
 
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Soooo, you should stay in a marriage with someone who is a drunk and beats you simply so you don't get divorced???

Of all the dumb things I have seen on the innernetz...............
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