verbally abusive relationships/marriages (woman, spouse, partner, passive)

[Freebird2007]

can they be saved?

[Rei_h]

Depends on the degree of it, but in my opinion, it would be very difficult.

Relationships/marriages must have respect. Verbally abusing a partner never has good effects.

[Freebird2007]

No physical abuse...just verbal.


I read this article and now am saddened that it fits me to a T.

10 Signs That Your Woman Is Abusive (http://wadvpress.org/?p=147 - broken link)

[Whyte Byrd]

Yes, if both see the problem, if both admit to the problem(s), if both want it to change....

[Freebird2007]

Originally Posted by Whyte Byrd

Yes, if both see the problem, if both admit to the problem(s), if both want it to change....

well, there is the inherent problem.


one side doesn't see it and blames the other side for the same thing that person is being accused of when in fact its not true.

[Rei_h]

Is this something new or has she always been this way?

[Huckleberry3911948]

i think so. the underlying problem is that there is some behavior that is not being addressed. the friction keeps ramping up bek the issue is not addressed. u either withdraw (harmful) or discuss and develop a plan of action to correct. if none of this occurs its endless confrontation. often the source of friction is some compulsion 1 spouse does not want to address.

[Freebird2007]

Originally Posted by Rei_h

Is this something new or has she always been this way?

its been getting worse.


I have had hints of it before....but often brushed it off.


I am more of a passive person and avoid confrontations.

[Freebird2007]

Originally Posted by Huckleberry3911948

i think so. the underlying problem is that there is some behavior that is not being addressed. the friction keeps ramping up bek the issue is not addressed. u either withdraw (harmful) or discuss and develop a plan of action to correct. if none of this occurs its endless confrontation. often the source of friction is some compulsion 1 spouse does not want to address.

oh, I have tried to discuss....but it often comes to picking out things wrong with me....for example:


me: honey, can you not yell and curse so much?
her: what are you talking about? you are the one who has the temper
me: since when do i have a temper?
her: remember 3 yrs ago you got mad at the Comcast person and yelled on the phone?
me: that was 3 yrs ago, you do it every day
her: no I do not.


btw, I have tried to video tape her to show her....but yeah, that didn't go over so well.

[Aganusn]

From that example? No way. Just end it.