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Anyhow. It depends, in my opinion, on if the guy can pull it off. Some can, many can't. It isn't about some arbitrary definition of "looks" for me any more than much of anything is, but all the same. An example in my mind of when a "predatory" gaze was actually pretty hot, was in the film Labyrinth. Like many women who were girl-children of the 80's, I had my share of swooning over Bowie. And no, it hadn't anything to do with his tights. It was the whole power trip thing. I get it far more since getting into kink, that's for sure. He even had a riding crop in the "Dance Magic Dance" song scene! Yowza! But that's not the one I meant, in context of this thread, it was the ballroom masquerade. And the key was, he was not just sitting in one place staring, he was prowling about, appearing here and there, always looking at Sarah. Now that was some masterful use of eye contact!
It was that one scene in the entirety of the film that established the concept of Sarah as not just some wayward teenage child, but a young woman on the threshold of adult sexuality, and he as her would-be suitor. It put an element of romantic and sexual tension into what was otherwise a children's story. And it was beautifully done.
Can just any man pull that off? No. I don't think so. But David Bowie sure could!
Lo!, any typical man tries that, he would actually look even creepier than if he just sat there, staring. Only David Bowie could make something like that work.
I myself wouldn't be able to do that on my most charismatic day. I just don't have that quality. Most guys would have the cops called on them...if not the S.W.A.T. team, LOL!!!
I just don't see how the predatory gaze can be hot. Even if the woman I had the biggest crush on did that to me, I'd probably vanish for a while. Predatory is just not hot to me...
Lo!, any typical man tries that, he would actually look even creepier than if he just sat there, staring. Only David Bowie could make something like that work.
I myself wouldn't be able to do that on my most charismatic day. I just don't have that quality. Most guys would have the cops called on them...if not the S.W.A.T. team, LOL!!!
Well, with the broader knowledge of the variety of humans in this world, not only would it take a particular kind of man to pull it off (and I can think of more examples than just Bowie!) but he would need to pick his subject with extreme care. Many women would not be receptive to it.
As with most variations on the concept of the "approach" (which still strikes me as such a silly thing, the way it gets talked about) possibly the single most key vital important critical component, is being able to read your subject of interest, and respond to her cues. If you know how to look, people will tell you a ton without speaking a single word.
I think part of the reason that there's a smidge of "yum" for me in thinking about the whole predatory gaze and primal stalking (not like creepy, harassment type stalking) is just the era I grew up in and the stuff I grew up enjoying that shaped a lot of my sexuality. Not just Labyrinth, though that could have been one of the most powerful early films to touch on the idea, but all that sexy vampire stuff of the 90's before the emo kids took over and injected the genre with sparkles and bubblegum. Gary Oldman as Dracula, some of the scenes out of The Lost Boys, and Interview With a Vampire...that kind of stuff was big in my teenage years. The whole vampire thing was very sexual, it was basically all about seduction.
Well, with the broader knowledge of the variety of humans in this world, not only would it take a particular kind of man to pull it off (and I can think of more examples than just Bowie!) but he would need to pick his subject with extreme care. Many women would not be receptive to it.
As with most variations on the concept of the "approach" (which still strikes me as such a silly thing, the way it gets talked about) possibly the single most key vital important critical component, is being able to read your subject of interest, and respond to her cues. If you know how to look, people will tell you a ton without speaking a single word.
I think part of the reason that there's a smidge of "yum" for me in thinking about the whole predatory gaze and primal stalking (not like creepy, harassment type stalking) is just the era I grew up in and the stuff I grew up enjoying that shaped a lot of my sexuality. Not just Labyrinth, though that could have been one of the most powerful early films to touch on the idea, but all that sexy vampire stuff of the 90's before the emo kids took over and injected the genre with sparkles and bubblegum. Gary Oldman as Dracula, some of the scenes out of The Lost Boys, and Interview With a Vampire...that kind of stuff was big in my teenage years. The whole vampire thing was very sexual, it was basically all about seduction.
I agree!
Hell, even women are going to have a hard time making it work towards men.
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