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Location: Fort Bend County, TX/USA/Mississauga, ON/Canada
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So a few of you might have seen my post the other day about my "barely boyfriend" being a potsmoker. Needless to say that really bothered me, and on Monday night I was a mess. I was crying and kicking myself, thinking that I should have gave him a chance.
But then I realized, that it's things like this that make me doubt myself in "relationships."
I guess now I feel like I'm unlucky in love. I am an elementary schoolteacher (kindergarten) & I feel like my life is devoted to those kiddoes and that with this kind of job, I'll never meet a decent man...I only go to bars/clubs every once in a while (expensive & trying to save money to move away from home), I'm not an active churchmember (I feel like churches are rid with people my age (early '20s-I'm 23) who are either single looking for a mate &/or married.
I guess what I'm saying is, I feel like I make bad choices in guys I'm not a desperate kinda girl but how do I stop this? I am accountable to what I do wrong. I am really just deciding that I want to stop looking for now.
Someone just please convince me that it's not the end b/c right now I feel pretty sh*tty
I guess what I'm saying is, I feel like I make bad choices in guys I'm not a desperate kinda girl but how do I stop this? I am accountable to what I do wrong. I am really just deciding that I want to stop looking for now.
Someone just please convince me that it's not the end b/c right now I feel pretty sh*tty
I've been a member since 2009 and read a few of the threads you've posted in relationships.
You haven't been completely honest on the forum or should I say, you've provided "contradictory" info. That leads me to this conclusion:
A. You're not honest with yourself
B. You're not honest in your relationships
C. A and B
You're so YOUNG to be saying these things...I know it's a cliche, but it's true: you really do have your whole life ahead of you, and the world really is your oyster---if you want it to be.
I think you need to take a pass on men for a while and just take care of YOU. Care for yourself, nurture yourself, develop yourself and love yourself as you would a cherished daughter or friend. If you fear loneliness and isolation, go to meetup.com and join one or more of the groups in your area. There are LOTS of them geared to singles in various age ranges, and also plenty focused not on marital/dating status, but common interests. For example, there's a weekly board games group in my area. Your email inbox will be filled with invitations to all kinds of fun events, and it's usually fine to bring a friend or two along, as well.
Try playing this little game with yourself: imagine you've visited a fortune teller who's been scientifically proven to always be right in her predictions, and she's predicted that in exactly 18 months you will meet your Mr. Right, and following a whirlwind romance will be married and pregnant, the next 20-odd years of your life already mapped out for you as a wife and mother. You've got exactly a year and a half left of being totally independent and unfettered. What would you do with that time?
I understand what you're saying, I have been honest with what I've posted on this forum. I'm probably A as of now.
Here's the thing about the virginity. I've had "oral" sex, I have not had anything else. I have "tried" to have sex but have unsuccessfully not had any "items" enter me before if that's what you want to know. So technically, I guess I'm NOT a virgin b/c I've had oral sex, but I have not been penetrated if that's what you are wondering.
Location: Fort Bend County, TX/USA/Mississauga, ON/Canada
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You're so YOUNG to be saying these things...I know it's a cliche, but it's true: you really do have your whole life ahead of you, and the world really is your oyster---if you want it to be.
I think you need to take a pass on men for a while and just take care of YOU. Care for yourself, nurture yourself, develop yourself and love yourself as you would a cherished daughter or friend. If you fear loneliness and isolation, go to meetup.com and join one or more of the groups in your area. There are LOTS of them geared to singles in various age ranges, and also plenty focused not on marital/dating status, but common interests. For example, there's a weekly board games group in my area. Your email inbox will be filled with invitations to all kinds of fun events, and it's usually fine to bring a friend or two along, as well.
Try playing this little game with yourself: imagine you've visited a fortune teller who's been scientifically proven to always be right in her predictions, and she's predicted that in exactly 18 months you will meet your Mr. Right, and following a whirlwind romance will be married and pregnant, the next 20-odd years of your life already mapped out for you as a wife and mother. You've got exactly a year and a half left of being totally independent and unfettered. What would you do with that time?
Haha, thanks! That sounds like a pretty cool idea.
I understand what you're saying, I have been honest with what I've posted on this forum. I'm probably A as of now.
Here's the thing about the virginity. I've had "oral" sex, I have not had anything else. I have "tried" to have sex but have unsuccessfully not had any "items" enter me before if that's what you want to know. So technically, I guess I'm NOT a virgin b/c I've had oral sex, but I have not been penetrated if that's what you are wondering.
Judging from your C-D photo, you are quite a beautiful, very lovely girl, and you seem to have a really nice and amazing personality, based on your posts I personally wouldn't worry...at your current age, you have plenty of time to find Mr. Right...you're way too adorable for the guys to not want to date you! Maybe it's just the current age bracket? (i.e., meaning that as they get older and more mature, say wthin the next 1-2 years, a lot more guys will be clamoring to date you! )
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I'm not a desperate kinda girl but how do I stop this? I am accountable to what I do wrong. I am really just deciding that I want to stop looking for now.
Maybe it's just the current age bracket? (i.e., meaning that as they get older and more mature, say wthin the next 1-2 years, a lot more guys will be clamoring to date you! 
