Husband left wife/kids for another woman - advice?

[haggardhouseelf]

Originally Posted by MrsRhythm

... and it's all so sudden for my friend - 2 weeks ago he loved her and they were planning another child.

That is what I find the most curious about this whole situation.

Either your friend is in denial and knew her marriage was falling apart but wasn't allowing herself to acknowledge it, and thought a new baby might fix things (too many women think this way) OR his mental illness is truly very bad and she needs to distance herself from him at least until he is healthy again and protect herself and her kids by lawyering up and seeking counseling for herself and her kids.

[lpaskalis.1]

i myself is in this situation ..but i have been for 3 years in the begining i allowed my husband to help with bill and my childeren but this only enabled me ..he would leave the other woman when thing where bad for them and when we would fight he would leave us and go back to her and her son....i kicked him out he moved in with his parents but choose to reach out to her to work things out her...she must down size for her childerens sake trust me at the end of day she will fall more and more in to debt while he secures his futrue. She must move out for her to go thru the healing processes it is scary but she is strong ..file chid support ..get a court apoint attorny..i don't know about law there but here in texas if the father takes childeren and keeps them there IS NOTHING SHE CAN DO ABOUT till thet go to court she must research her rights and his so she can prepare herself. This is a hard pill to swallow she is hurt and confussed 'how can someone you love just leave you and your childeren' i know. She is not only loosing someone she loves but is now a single mom. i have has to sit up at night with my daughter cring for her father and now the woman has turned his heart so cold to us ,,he says she will get over it.My blessing to your friend and please let her know she is not alone to right by the lord and let him guide her and her childeren un burned thru this fire

[totsuka]

Get a divorce. Don't give all the money to lawyers. He pays child support and 1/2 house not. If you can't swing a house, bail out and rent. Life is full of trouble and this person is not the only one to have trouble like this. Move. on.