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This comes from a conversation that I had the other day. It was with a member of the opposite sex, who I've come to realize may have a "thing" for me, and honestly, I think it may be reciprocated. I'll put this one in the "things happen" category.
Anyway, the reason why I'm posting is because we were speaking about life, love and all sorts of deep things that you normally speak about while taking a smoke break at work. LOL
We got to speaking about my relationship, and why, after almost 6 years, we've not moved it to the next level. (We are still 100 miles away, with a border between us, and see each other on most weekends.) I told him that, pretty much over the past 6 months, I've become just plain tired of the commute there. It's beginning to feel more like work than my actual work does, and that's saying a lot. He asked me which of us was reluctant to take the next step, and I honestly couldn't answer him. Part of it feels like obligation, and part is fear- that this is where my entire social life has been over the past 6 years, and it's a scary prospect to give it up.
I've been doing a lot of thinking about this over the past couple of days, and wondering, not if I should break up with my boyfriend, but how you "know it's right" in terms of relationships. Personally and professionally, I've done a lot of changing over the past 6 to 8 months, and I think that this may be my next step.
Heck, I've had more butterflies in my stomach speaking with this guy over the past couple of days (and have smoked more than I should in hopes of seeing him), but that aside...when you get past all of the infatuation, is there truly such a feeling as "yes, this is it", or is it something that you just try to convince yourself of?
Something about some sort of spark. But then I've been told those die eventually. I don't know. Most people go by "Oh this feels so right". It could be that you were already thinking that your current relationship situation is untenable and then this guy at work enters the pic and all of a sudden you're possibly looking for an exit with a good escape route.
Resolve your feelings about your current relationship and that should provide you with more insight.
I would never consider ending a relationship because of a mere spark with someone else.
Either your current relationship is good or it isn't. That's a stand alone situation
And it's easy to get a new spark with someone new. You haven't live with them, merged things with them, argued with them...... Starting a spark is the easiest thing in the world.
Though why in world, after 6 years, are you living 100 miles apart from your guy. My head can't wrap around what kind of actual relationship that could be.
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