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All the reasons you stated are exactly the reason I could not continue a relationship with a registered offender, no matter how minor the offense. Unfortunately they are all treated the same once they register and it is too big of an obstacle to deal with for me.
Exactly. Is that how it is ... none of them can be around kids? Even someone who was peeing in the bushes, or a 19-year-old who had a 15-year-old girlfriend? Not that the latter is okay, but it's not on par with violent rape or pedophilia.
I'm just thinking of a lifetime of challenges. Can't ever have a birthday party for your kid with dad there. Can't ever let dad take the kid to play ball in the park. No sleepovers. No school plays. Oh wow ... would the school know? I don't think I could deal with it.
Exactly. Is that how it is ... none of them can be around kids? Even someone who was peeing in the bushes, or a 19-year-old who had a 15-year-old girlfriend? Not that the latter is okay, but it's not on par with violent rape or pedophilia.
I'm just thinking of a lifetime of challenges. Can't ever have a birthday party for your kid with dad there. Can't ever let dad take the kid to play ball in the park. No sleepovers. No school plays. Oh wow ... would the school know? I don't think I could deal with it.
I'm not so sure that once you are on it that you have to be on it for life, or that it automaticly says you cant be around kids. I think sometimes, depending on the offense, you can get to a point where you don't have to register anymore.
I'm very torn. I fell in love with a man and his children are adults now and very successful. I found out by googling his name that he is a registered sex offender. Oh, the shock!!! Once we talked about it, I learned that he was willing to answer any questions and that he felt ashamed about it. He described himself as a modern day leper. He attends church regularly and has a great relationship with his ex wife and children. Even though, his daughter was one of the one time victims. My question is this... Can you be a one time sexual offender? Touching someone who is under the age of 10? And can you be healed? I believe in God and I am not here to judge. I know God is able to do anything if we are willing to ask and accept and surrender.
I'm very torn. I fell in love with a man and his children are adults now and very successful. I found out by googling his name that he is a registered sex offender. Oh, the shock!!! Once we talked about it, I learned that he was willing to answer any questions and that he felt ashamed about it. He described himself as a modern day leper. He attends church regularly and has a great relationship with his ex wife and children. Even though, his daughter was one of the one time victims. My question is this... Can you be a one time sexual offender? Touching someone who is under the age of 10? And can you be healed? I believe in God and I am not here to judge. I know God is able to do anything if we are willing to ask and accept and surrender.
Yes... many individuals are one-time sex offenders. It's completely possible and completely probable. HOWEVER, touching someone under 10 makes him a pedophile. There's no such thing as a one-time pedophile. I would not be interested in introducing any of my family or friends to a pedophile. It's like an allergy... anything, in the right conditions, can trigger an episode. Too risky for me.
That's exactly the way I look at it. If I found that out prior to meeting or very early on, I'd give him up. If it is later, it depends, but still way too much rides on it to marry such a person or even be with him long-term as it pretty much means unemployment forever... If you intend to have kids, it's probably even worse. It sucks because I don't consider this a crime at all, but it is what it's been made to be...
you just cant get govt jobs, any civilian employer worth their salt will over look something like that as long as the guy is highly skilled. People and employers are starting to wake up to the fact that our govt and especially our court system is a total joke.
I'd have to say, the public urination and the overage boyfriend/underage girlfriend HS couple are the only two permissible examples. I think that the latter situation is better settled by Judge Dad in the living room rather than a criminal court, but evidently the law and I do not agree. Anyway...
Pedophilia? Rape? Gross age difference? Busy hands? Run the hell away.
I'd find out the circumstances first. Even if it was insignificant, if it was something that would follow him around for the rest of his life...or even 10 years, I'd probably bail. That's sad too, because as others have posted, it could be a stupid, one-time incident, which probably shouldn't have even been classified as a "sex crime", that earned the guy that title.
That's exactly the way I look at it. If I found that out prior to meeting or very early on, I'd give him up. If it is later, it depends, but still way too much rides on it to marry such a person or even be with him long-term as it pretty much means unemployment forever... If you intend to have kids, it's probably even worse. It sucks because I don't consider this a crime at all, but it is what it's been made to be...
eh very few jobs actually do background checks so i disagree there.
Well most states have a age exception of 4 years so the aforementioned situation won't happen most likely. But even so it really depends on the situation....if it was a teacher having sex with a student at 18 or 19 ~yes in most states it is illegal~ then i might give a chance. If he was caught grabbing a 10 year old then no.
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