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lol, is that the answer for all those sexless marriages? you made the wrong partner selection?
Of course!
So many guys here have posted that they deliberately screen out a woman who loves sex ,because they are afraid they won't be able to keep her satisfied and that she will cheat. But their paranoia comes back to bite them a few years down the road when they regret preferring the low-sex-drive spouse.
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i suppose you are someone of some experience. so you know as well as i do that what was once smokin hot and special, can slowly decline into something not so hot, or even interesting.
Each time I have seen that happen, it was due to other issues -- nonsexual problems affecting the sexual connection.
Pick someone who loves sex and talks about problems instead of ignoring them... or letting them lead to cheating.
you have great optimism, but i'm not sure it jibes with reality. yet i don't mean to be a cynic and wish others much success because long term sexual compatibility is critical and believe its something you don't discover until you walk that path. i tend believe the answers are different from what you have posted, but respect the difference of opinion.
So many guys here have posted that they deliberately screen out a woman who loves sex ,because they are afraid they won't be able to keep her satisfied and that she will cheat. But their paranoia comes back to bite them a few years down the road when they regret preferring the low-sex-drive spouse.
Each time I have seen that happen, it was due to other issues -- nonsexual problems affecting the sexual connection.
Pick someone who loves sex and talks about problems instead of ignoring them... or letting them lead to cheating.
I don't think most guys have a "experienced" problem.....with ex husbands and boyfriends.......But have it when she gains it with HIGH numbers of different men.
Some women will die trying to justify how 30-80-100 DIFFERENT partners are acceptable.
Nah, just gimme the gal who screwed her husband and a few boyfriends.....repeatedly.
Pay for her to get her hair done, dyed and cut differently. A change for fun and who cares, its just hair. With my ex I cut my hair and went from blond to brunette with bright ref chunks then invested in some cute lingerie. Its like looking at a new person and slicing up the bedroom a little bit. Your wife will be at her best and may be even willing to try new things and open to ideas you may have. Also, I know going to bed naked its comfortable but have her keep things a mystery to you, something to make you wonder and peak your interest.
To be fair, not all men have the sexual maturity of a 16 year old boy. Getting naked and sitting next to me talking does nothing for me either. Simply being naked and talking are not sexual actions in themselves. Some of us need "real" foreplay first. Simply getting naked and hoping I still have some teenage boy left in me isn't going to cut it. She should have more sexual prowess. Use that beautiful brain to operate that beautiful body to do some sexy/kinky things. I think the Op is a bit more sexually advanced than his wife, who has not advanced over the 5 years and still hoping the same old routine will cut it forever. It doesn't.
It's probably a question of libido. Everyone's is different and the OP sounds like he might be a bit more cerebral in his attitudes to sex than a lot of other guys. The point is that the couple needs to know these things about each other in order to avoid hurt feelings and the like.
I, myself, prefer a man who shows desire toward me ever time he sees me naked. Why? It's ego inflating and it's reassuring.
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It's been a dead thread for three years that a first time post reanimated this morning.
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