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We have kissed, hold hands, laugh....had a great time...etc. She talks about our future encounters in all of the previous dates while we're on the date.
Perfect huh? Not until we start texting/calling is when I start feeling she's playing games.
- Short responses that don't lead to a conversation.
- Takes her sweet time
- text me first then either falls asleep or takes a long time to respond
- Tells me she'll call me later and never calls (with no explanation)
Here's an example:
Yesterday while I was working during midnight I get a text from her that says "Baaaaaaaaaae"....Well I reply, she replies back...and then she falls off the face of the earth. I'm guessing she fell asleep right? never got a text in the morning explaining so (she used to do this before). I called her around 2 PM today, she was in Barnes and Nobles...she cuts it off with "I'll call you back in a bit"...is 7:30 pm and still no response or signs she's alive.
I'm getting fed off with this. For a girl that exchange to me that good relationships are built on good communication....well this is a shocker.
We were talking about safe sex just last Saturday in our 4th date and she told me in a enthusiastic voice while I was talking about it "You have to make me your girlfriend first before we have sex!"...took me by surprise a bit and I smiled and said "of course".... But looking at it now, I don't see why I would make a girl that's acting shady this early my girlfriend.
The disconnection between texting and in person has been going for a month now.
Should I call her out on it? not exactly as an ultimatum or anything, but as something that has been bothering me? I mean if the plan is a stable relationship then I should be able to express my concern and displeasure right?
Is like the closer we get in person, the more distant she becomes on the phone/text.
Call her out. She might just like being coy. Girls are notorious for their 'playing hard to get' antics. So just be direct and tell her that you find it rude, silly or whatnot when she plays those games. If she's receptive to it and changes, then problem solved! If not, move on.
Call her out. She might just like being coy. Girls are notorious for their 'playing hard to get' antics. So just be direct and tell her that you find it rude, silly or whatnot when she plays those games. If she's receptive to it and changes, then problem solved! If not, move on.
I have a feeling she's doing it on purpose.
Yes, this girl has play hard to get in the past. Specially when it came to kissing and her silly "no kissing in the first date" policy.
She was all over me Saturday.
Maybe I should just relax and let her come to me from this point and on? This is not a shy girl...this girl basically made up the first date happen herself.
She has never flaked on a date either and obviously just implied the thought of me making her my girlfriend just last Saturday...
But still bothers me that she still playing this silly text games. What is her issue and what is the point of doing this?
Just to see what I'm made of and to see I'm not needy?
She literally text me "Baaaaaaae" yesterday and her second message was "Mwah!" which felt kinda good...but then she didn't reply to my message after than and didn't get that apology for falling asleep like in the past.
She's on her spring break vacation on his friend's mom house in Miami right now...but she still post a status on facebook.
Crap I over-think too much.
Good thing is that I have yet to show it though. My tone of voice in the phone and responses have been as relax as anyone can be.
Why don't you back off and let HER contact you first? Let her set up your next date. Or will you not be able to do that? There's obviously a chance she won't...or that you'll jump in before she does and then you'll have learned nothing. Give HER the chance to do something...and then move on - it's only been 4 dates.
Why don't you back off and let HER contact you first? Let her set up your next date. Or will you not be able to do that? There's obviously a chance she won't...or that you'll jump in before she does and then you'll have learned nothing. Give HER the chance to do something...and then move on - it's only been 4 dates.
She's on vacation right now.
And she DID contact me first first last night with "Baaaaaaaeeee" followed by a kissing sound "Mwah".
So not sure what you're saying.
I'm waiting for her to comeback from Miami (She will be there for a week).
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