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I'm in the process of purchasing a new home and recently my boyfriend of less than 6 months asked me if we were to marry would he be entitled to part of my home and if we were married would we share all our income . Now, I'm a smart girl and this threw up HUGE red flags. He has debt and absolutely NO assets or retirement and makes about 1/4 of what I make. I have absolutely NO DEBT, I have retirement savings, a great career, currently own a home which the equity is being used on my new house, I have substantial cash and assets.
Is this normal? Does it sound like he's just curious if he moved into my house and helped with the upkeep would he have a vested interest or does it sound like (and this is what I think) he is a GOLD DIGGER and just wants to know if he proposed and we married what's in it for him.
I think it's a huge red flag. It would never occur to me to ask those kinds of questions to someone I am not married to or even engaged to. I think he's lookin' for a sugar momma.
Only you can answer if he loves you. We certainly can't.
You can always ask him to wait a little longer because you're unsure still. It hasn't been that long.
even if HE loves her so what?
she needs to decide whether she wants to carry a debt ridden slug...
id tell him....you wont be marrying, you dont believe in it-then you will see him leave-and dont be giving the slug money... sometimes love, (if you do love him) is not being a doormat, but telling him what the rest of the world wont-rip into him, set him straight.
she needs to decide whether she wants to carry a debt ridden slug...
id tell him....you wont be marrying, you dont believe in it-then you will see him leave-and dont be giving the slug money... sometimes love, (if you do love him) is not being a doormat, but telling him what the rest of the world wont-rip into him, set him straight.
She dated that "debt ridden slug" for 6 months so she must like him.
If she didn't like him then she shouldn't have dated him.
She, like other people who have this same paranoia, was probably afraid of this from day one, before he even asked.
She should not have dated him, but she did because she liked him. This is just her paranoia coming out. And if that is something she can't get rid of, then she should just accept it, dump him, and only date men who make more money than her.
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and if we were married would we share all our income 
