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Hi, I joined a dating site recently. I met a man with a great profile, we have a lot in common and he e-mailed me after seeing my profile.
We e-mailed a few times and it was going ok. I filled in his quiz, but didn't do so well. I had spent quite a while writing about my choice of answer as he had asked me to as I was looking forward to discussing it later.
I asked him if he wanted to go on instant messenger, he went offline. I panicked after waiting a couple of hours and sent him this ridiculous mail about where he'd gone and didn't he want to chat...very embarrassing as he sent an e-mail back at the same time asking me if I wanted to meet up for a date.
After receiving this e-mail from me, he sent me another mail saying he had been busy and that he will come back when he can give me his full attention. I thought he meant this so replied when can you come back then, but now realise he was being sarcastic.
He never came back. I messed up.
I sent him a couple of e-mails saying I'd misunderstood when he'd gone and that he should have just said he was busy, I thought he'd ditched me.
The thing is I'm not a clingy person or an attention seeker in real life and sending this mail has made me look really creepy and needy. Sending the mails after has made me look desperate. This all came to me in the night last night.
This guy was very suitable for me and I screwed up because I like him and his profile and was just looking forward to chatting with him. Is there anything I can do to recover?
I'm guessing no...
Oh my. You've not even MET the guy. You don't have anything to "get back". I'm afraid you have a lot to learn about using online sites. They can be very productive, but you have to remember a few things...the main one being this: until you actually MEET someone, you know NOTHING. Absolutely NOTHING. Don't EVER get hung up on a virtual identity. Online dating sites do nothing but provide another venue that you can use to meet people...that is ALL. Now hit the NEXT button and move on.
So what is this website with interviews, matchstick?
I need a new site. I am currently inactive on other sites, as one of the women in my harem made a huge fuss about me being active on the site. She was watching how long I was being active and openly asked why I need to when I am already talking to her.
I have kept looking and none of the other profiles I've seen even compare... and that just makes me feel worse for messing it up.
I don't think you messed anything up.
The guy sounds like a flake.
In the future, when you happen to stumble across a strong maybe...
make it your business to arrange to meet them (safely) asap
and LONG before you waste time exchanging more than two or three brief messages.
0) this applies to men as well as women
1) this clears out the flakes which come in both genders
2) this gets you face to face with what really exists before you can "invest" in projections
Hi, I joined a dating site recently. I met a man with a great profile, we have a lot in common and he e-mailed me after seeing my profile.
We e-mailed a few times and it was going ok. I filled in his quiz, but didn't do so well. I had spent quite a while writing about my choice of answer as he had asked me to as I was looking forward to discussing it later.
I asked him if he wanted to go on instant messenger, he went offline. I panicked after waiting a couple of hours and sent him this ridiculous mail about where he'd gone and didn't he want to chat...very embarrassing as he sent an e-mail back at the same time asking me if I wanted to meet up for a date.
After receiving this e-mail from me, he sent me another mail saying he had been busy and that he will come back when he can give me his full attention. I thought he meant this so replied when can you come back then, but now realise he was being sarcastic.
He never came back. I messed up.
I sent him a couple of e-mails saying I'd misunderstood when he'd gone and that he should have just said he was busy, I thought he'd ditched me.
The thing is I'm not a clingy person or an attention seeker in real life and sending this mail has made me look really creepy and needy. Sending the mails after has made me look desperate. This all came to me in the night last night.
This guy was very suitable for me and I screwed up because I like him and his profile and was just looking forward to chatting with him. Is there anything I can do to recover?
I'm guessing no...
Being compatible in the profile doesn't mean that much.
The true test was when you two couldn't work out your differences. That shows that you are incompatible. The true test of compatibility is PROBLEMS and how you resolve them.
It's true that bad luck was also a factor.
But it seems you need someone reassuring and patient. And he is not.
Being compatible in the profile doesn't mean that much.
The true test was when you two couldn't work out your differences. That shows that you are incompatible. The true test of compatibility is PROBLEMS and how you resolve them.
It's true that bad luck was also a factor.
But it seems you need someone reassuring and patient. And he is not.
So not a big loss...
I guess if it doesn't mean that much being compatible in the profile, then I should just go back to normal dating. I am usually unlucky in love....
I agree we couldn't work it out....he just dropped me like a hot potato. Told me he'd got cold feet after 'that' mail and wished me luck.
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