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Im 24....and lately Ive been hearing that as you get older and are married, its more important than ever you have plenty of female friends as time goes by.
Is this true? If it is, WHY?
All my life Ive had very, very VERY little use for female company, and quite often feel awkward amongst members of my own gender. I cringe inwardly when I think of 'girls night' with a bunch of women, and since Ive heard its essential to HAVE female friends, I just wonder why.
Im 24....and lately Ive been hearing that as you get older and are married, its more important than ever you have plenty of female friends as time goes by.
Is this true? If it is, WHY?
All my life Ive had very, very VERY little use for female company, and quite often feel awkward amongst members of my own gender. I cringe inwardly when I think of 'girls night' with a bunch of women, and since Ive heard its essential to HAVE female friends, I just wonder why.
It basically comes down to not losing yourself as a person and continuing to do the things you used to do before. This is just an example of something common among other women. However, if you had no need for female company before, there's no reason to have it after getting married.
I don't know about the plenty part, but a few good female friends can really get you by in life. There is more to who you are than just the married part of you. I have maybe a half dozen really good, close girlfriends and I'd be lost without them. Three of them are long distance so much of our friendship is via phone and email, but they all are as essential to me as the air I breathe.
In the case of my mom, she and my dad did everything together, joined at the hip. He died unexpectedly earlier this year and she is lost without him and floundering because she didn't put much into friendships, and there aren't a lot of people in her support system now.
I KNOW plenty of females, many Ive known for years and years...but they are held at a distance. Im a social critter and make it my habit to be well connected with alot of people...Im personable as well as memorable.
I simply dont allow them very close...
Im 24....and lately Ive been hearing that as you get older and are married, its more important than ever you have plenty of female friends as time goes by.
Is this true? If it is, WHY?
All my life Ive had very, very VERY little use for female company, and quite often feel awkward amongst members of my own gender. I cringe inwardly when I think of 'girls night' with a bunch of women, and since Ive heard its essential to HAVE female friends, I just wonder why.
It's definitely true. That way when everyone divorces, you can all just switch up.
The older I get the more I appreciate having people around me who genuinely care about me and where there's a back and forth trust built up. The early stages of marriage and then having children, you tend to lose yourself and everyone else's needs/wants take priority.
Your friends are the ones who keep you sane, they laugh with you, cry with you, and remind you to take time for yourself. There are moments in your life where it's nice to know there are people who have your back - death of a spouse, divorce, illness, etc.
eta: I've always had more male friends than female but the female friends I have I treasure.
Most friends Ive known since grade school, several Ive known since I was 6 years old...All are male...
My marriage though, there will be no children. Just myself and my husband. Do you think this will improve things and make it so we both can branch out and continue our own interests instead of 'losing' ourselves?
What's important to you socially need not change once you get married, IMO. Do what you're comfortable with. Female friends can be a source of support for a lot of women, I can see that. I also know from personal experience some people don't need that as much. You have to judge what works for you.
I'm not a "girls night out" type either and while I have a few close friends, my social life is close to nil and by choice. It's just not important to me. I have a friend whose social life is one of her top priorities and that's great, she knows herself and what works for her.
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