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Old 10-12-2011, 12:54 PM
 
Location: Londonderry, NH
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I have not been intimidated for a very long time. I love to meet beautiful women. There is frequently a lonely person inside tired of people that never get beyond the looks.
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Old 10-19-2011, 07:43 PM
 
Location: PA/NJ
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I've seen the guys most beautiful women go for and it ain't me;
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Old 10-19-2011, 08:27 PM
 
Location: Brooklyn, New York
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Im one if them ha...
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Old 10-19-2011, 08:30 PM
 
Location: Tucson
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Is that supposed to answer the question or is it time for a commercial break?
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Old 10-19-2011, 08:33 PM
 
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If you see a person who's extraordinarily beautiful/handsome are you afraid to approach or talk to them? I've been present on numerous occassions when such individuals bemoan never being approached and going home alone from the bars.

What's been your experience?

Has
Not crippling intimidation, and if anything, I want to be around them more, that's natural.
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Old 10-19-2011, 09:11 PM
 
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OK, when young I had thin skin so approaching anoyone who turned me down hurt, but after living a few years I can state that my personal experience has been:

A) some 10's used that against other people to control them/play with their emotions (c*cteasings-putdowns-humiliations)
B) some had an attitude that you're only interacting because they're hot (i.e. the typical man-hater or woman hater)
C) some honestly had low-self opinion, yet were super-sensitive to people staring (or what they took to be a stare which wasn't); OR they did not believe in themselves and needed psychiatric help that was gonna get in the way of actually getting to know them
D) some realized what they had and only responded to others who were just as hot or hotter, in other words you were treated like you didn't exist or were wasting their time (the 'you're out of my league' look)
E) the remaining 5% normal ones were so rare you couldn't believe they were normal (more like you couldn't trust that they actually were), so you, after all the other bad experiences, walked away without saying hi to save yourself emotional turmoil, some of which might be self-created by your own issue of wondering whether they could remain satisfied in a relationship with you, the guy who has 7.5 looks.

That's my personal experience.
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Old 10-20-2011, 05:12 AM
 
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OK, when young I had thin skin so approaching anoyone who turned me down hurt, but after living a few years I can state that my personal experience has been:

A) some 10's used that against other people to control them/play with their emotions (c*cteasings-putdowns-humiliations)
B) some had an attitude that you're only interacting because they're hot (i.e. the typical man-hater or woman hater)
C) some honestly had low-self opinion, yet were super-sensitive to people staring (or what they took to be a stare which wasn't); OR they did not believe in themselves and needed psychiatric help that was gonna get in the way of actually getting to know them
D) some realized what they had and only responded to others who were just as hot or hotter, in other words you were treated like you didn't exist or were wasting their time (the 'you're out of my league' look)
E) the remaining 5% normal ones were so rare you couldn't believe they were normal (more like you couldn't trust that they actually were), so you, after all the other bad experiences, walked away without saying hi to save yourself emotional turmoil, some of which might be self-created by your own issue of wondering whether they could remain satisfied in a relationship with you, the guy who has 7.5 looks.

That's my personal experience.

True, 5% normal has been my observation too. I've often wonder how it must be to be so pretty yet waiting forever for the wealthy Brad Pitt look a like. I feel sorry for them.
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Old 10-20-2011, 05:20 AM
 
Location: Oxford, England
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I have never been intimidated by looks and would have no problem approaching either male or female "perfect 10s". A human being is a human being, I don't see how their looks should inhibit me.

Brains, now that I find incredibly intimidating. I have been in the presence of super brainy people and it does make me a lot shyer ( which I am naturally to begin with) because it impresses me and makes me a feel a lot "smaller". I would still engage in conversation but would feel really quite worried about appearing like an intellectual midget to them and saying something stupid or ignorant.

Looks to me have never been anything that special. If someone who is totally gorgeous but seems like a decent human being is there I will quite happily chat to them. If they look conceited and like jerks then it's a total turn off and contact would not be something which I would desire anyway.

Brains always trump looks IMO. No contest.
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Old 10-20-2011, 05:27 AM
 
Location: The western periphery of Terra Australis
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I freely admit that if I'm out at a club or something, I sometimes do feel intimidated by beautiful women, but only because I have that instant attraction to them and they are the ones I am eyeing up/wanting to approach. I feel less intimidated talking to less attractive women because there's less pressure on me.
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Old 10-20-2011, 07:25 AM
 
Location: Where Dance Music comes first
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Is that supposed to answer the question or is it time for a commercial break?
How bout, "Looking in mirror scares me ****less." How's that?
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