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I have spent over 7 months on Match and finally found 2 girls that I have been casually dating but have not gotten serious with (a peck on the lips at most)... I have been going back and forth with the 2 for a couple months now but dating is at most once a week sometimes a couple weeks between, mainly my due to my choosing. They both are very interested in me but obviously I will have to choose one.
I am trying to be a gentleman about this whole ordeal but I chose to date 2 girls at once because in my 7+ months of Match I have learned not to put all eggs into a basket with one girl. I distanced myself far enough from both so they dont feel as if I have committed to them yet I still give them my attention and I am genuinely interested in both.
Problem is I think i have some sort of phobia of hurting people's feelings and I feel guilty now because I will have to break it off with one of these lovely girls. They are both so nice and sweet I don't know how to approach this situation. I have no idea if they are seeing others as well but it is entirely possible.
Please I could use some advice. I'm just trying to do the right thing as painlessly as possible.
Which one has the qualities you like the most...the one you can potentially see yourself settling down with, the one that your heart cares for the most..
If you met them on match.com then they should have some experience in getting dumped. I don't mean that to sound harsh, but it's the truth. Leading them on is much worse than being honest with them. If there is not much separating them, and you could see yourself with either of them long-term, then I would have a talk with both of them about their feelings. You may find that one of them is not as interested in you as you think.
Which one has the qualities you like the most...the one you can potentially see yourself settling down with, the one that your heart cares for the most..
Seven months PAYING for a dating site and you've barely made it to first base? As Chris Berman and the guys say on ESPN.... "C'MON MAN!!!!!!"
I only use the free dating sites, and each time I activate a profile I consider it a failure if I haven't SCORED within a week. Forget about a peck on the lips.
My advice is to drop both of these chicks and start from scratch with a whole new mindset. Step up your game and swing at every pitch. Soon you'll have TEN chicks you're trying to choose between. That's the spot you want to be in!
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Seven months PAYING for a dating site and you've barely made it to first base? As Chris Berman and the guys say on ESPN.... "C'MON MAN!!!!!!"
I only use the free dating sites, and each time I activate a profile I consider it a failure if I haven't SCORED within a week. Forget about a peck on the lips.
My advice is to drop both of these chicks and start from scratch with a whole new mindset. Step up your game and swing at every pitch. Soon you'll have TEN chicks you're trying to choose between. That's the spot you want to be in!
Not everyone has your good looks and charm, Romeo . It's tough going for us mere mortals.
Seven months PAYING for a dating site and you've barely made it to first base? As Chris Berman and the guys say on ESPN.... "C'MON MAN!!!!!!"
I only use the free dating sites, and each time I activate a profile I consider it a failure if I haven't SCORED within a week. Forget about a peck on the lips.
My advice is to drop both of these chicks and start from scratch with a whole new mindset. Step up your game and swing at every pitch. Soon you'll have TEN chicks you're trying to choose between. That's the spot you want to be in!
I don't think the OP is looking for 10 women to choose between. He's already having enough trouble with 2. Plus, he sounds like too much of a gentleman for that sort of behavior.
LadyLKO has very helpful advice, OP. Perhaps it's time to step back and think about those qualities.
Problem is I think i have some sort of phobia of hurting people's feelings and I feel guilty now because I will have to break it off with one of these lovely girls.
It gets easier. I dont see why you have to break it off with one though. Its not like you are proposing marriage. 2 is better than 1
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. It's tough going for us mere mortals.
