Am I "insecure" for NOT wanting to know my partner's sexual history?

[StaggerLee22]

Originally Posted by Cindy_Jole

There's nothing wrong with preferring a sexually conservative woman.

I agree.
I've been with my share of women.
For me---the best sex almost always came from some girl that wasn't a wild one.
Normal plane Jane types.
Conserative is sexy.
Slutty is fun too...but I don't like a woman that's as nasty as me.
My wife is a prude.
...and I love it.
We gel together perrrrrrrrfectly.
The best part is that she never says no, and lets me do whatever I want to/with her.

You'd never know it looking at her though.

[xiansheng_g]

During this day and age, it might be beneficial to you to know about your partner's sexual history.

[punkerjim]

Originally Posted by UNLV09

But even if you can live by this, is it wrong to simply have a preference for a sexually conservative woman, and be turned off by sexually liberal ones? Does having this preference or worldview make one "insecure" or a bad, judgemental person? I mean, don't we all have our preferences in partners, and aren't many of those "outdated"?

i wouldn't think it makes you insecure just because you don't want to hear about it. if you made it clear to her that you didn't want to hear it and she went ahead with it anyway, something is wrong with her for not respecting your wishes.

your preference is your preference... people look for different things in SO's, that's what you look for.

i've never really cared either way about hearing or telling about sexual history. in a way, it's good to be able to discuss it openly but it can also change the way you view a person.... i wouldn't judge a female for having four guys at once because, if the roles were reversed, i ain't passing up four girls at once.... that being said, i probably wouldn't want to have a serious relationship with a woman that has had that experience before though.... preferences.

[punkerjim]

Originally Posted by StaggerLee22

The best part is that she never says no, and lets me do whatever I want to/with her.

You'd never know it looking at her though.

well then that's not being a prude... that sounds more like she LOOKS like a prude.

i guess i'd classify it as the "librarian"... looks boring/prudish but then behind closed doors.......