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Old 10-03-2011, 08:35 AM
 
Location: Pensacola
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This was our site, and i haven't changed it a bit, but i haven't been on anymore, this was our dream to move to New York. Now, why bother? Today is our would-be anniversary. I am serverely depressed and my life is still upside down, and it's been almost 4 months since he left. I wonder if he will contact me today. I pray he will, and i just hurt so bad i know i am not even making any sense. I can't explain what all has ahppened, or how i feel. just that i need him. And i don't want to go on without him another day. I can't do thisd anymore. Time keeps flying by, and i just watch. I have tried so hard to go on, and i have been doing good. But i can't imagine my life without my other half. He's the reason i breathe, HOW do i go on? Wisdom please. Make this little girl believe i have a reason to go on.
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Old 10-03-2011, 08:42 AM
 
Location: Houston, Tx
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This was our site, and i haven't changed it a bit, but i haven't been on anymore, this was our dream to move to New York. Now, why bother? Today is our would-be anniversary. I am serverely depressed and my life is still upside down, and it's been almost 4 months since he left. I wonder if he will contact me today. I pray he will, and i just hurt so bad i know i am not even making any sense. I can't explain what all has ahppened, or how i feel. just that i need him. And i don't want to go on without him another day. I can't do thisd anymore. Time keeps flying by, and i just watch. I have tried so hard to go on, and i have been doing good. But i can't imagine my life without my other half. He's the reason i breathe, HOW do i go on? Wisdom please. Make this little girl believe i have a reason to go on.

I know break ups can be hurtful, but come on! Why don't you go down to a hospital where little kids are dying of cancer or a va hospital where soldiers are coming back from war with there limbs blown off, and tell me if you still fell sorry for yourself. Look life goes on there are plenty of other men out there.
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Old 10-03-2011, 08:44 AM
 
Location: Pensacola
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True.
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Old 10-03-2011, 08:46 AM
 
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I know break ups can be hurtful, but come on! Why don't you go down to a hospital where little kids are dying of cancer or a va hospital where soldiers are coming back from war with there limbs blown off, and tell me if you still fell sorry for yourself. Look life goes on there are plenty of other men out there.
Not always. Some people are incapable of loving someone else. They typically are weaklings or into drama, etc.
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Old 10-03-2011, 08:51 AM
 
Location: Florida
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I see from your past status updates that you made a status in April of this year about making National Honor Society. That tells me that you are no older than 18. Who cares if things didn't work out with your high school boyfriend? It's high school, it's not supposed to last forever, and you're supposed to move on, so do it.

The idiots who marry their high school flames are the ones who will have a divorce under their belts by 25. Get out there and enjoy life and get some! You've got a whole decade of fun to take care of before you even start thinking about true love!
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Old 10-03-2011, 08:53 AM
 
Location: So Cal
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Hang in there. I know is sounds cliche, but it just takes time.

Try and just wait it out.
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Old 10-03-2011, 08:56 AM
 
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OP, I'm sorry he left you. It takes time to get over a broken relationship but there are also things you can do expedite the process.

Go out with your friends and have fun, resist the urge to listen to EMO music, make a conscious effort to stop looking at photos of him, treat yourself to a spa or massage.

We all have a heartbreak or two or three in life but life does move on and the bad feelings get better.
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Old 10-03-2011, 08:57 AM
 
Location: The Mitten
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This was our site, and i haven't changed it a bit, but i haven't been on anymore, this was our dream to move to New York. Now, why bother? Today is our would-be anniversary. I am serverely depressed and my life is still upside down, and it's been almost 4 months since he left. I wonder if he will contact me today. I pray he will, and i just hurt so bad i know i am not even making any sense. I can't explain what all has ahppened, or how i feel. just that i need him. And i don't want to go on without him another day. I can't do thisd anymore. Time keeps flying by, and i just watch. I have tried so hard to go on, and i have been doing good. But i can't imagine my life without my other half. He's the reason i breathe, HOW do i go on? Wisdom please. Make this little girl believe i have a reason to go on.
Wow, well I am saddened, for you, that such a person can have such a reaction. I haven't been in a situation where my position with a person would hurt me so much that it would bring me down so low as to give up. I realize; however, that it is very hard to get by when you're not with such a person you're connected with.

Maybe what you really need is to fulfill your inspiration by just going to New York. I'm not sure exactly why you were going to New York in the first place, which it could have been the infamous movie from the '50s starring Cary Grant. Either way, you may find something (or someone)...inspiring there. At least, you owe it to yourself to be happy.
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Old 10-03-2011, 09:00 AM
 
Location: Pensacola
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Thanks to all, for the harsh yet true advice.
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Old 10-03-2011, 09:04 AM
 
Location: Pensacola
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Not always. Some people are incapable of loving someone else. They typically are weaklings or into drama, etc.
I hate to disagree, i am not a weakling and I hate drama. I know that typically teenage girls will blow things out of proportion at the time of a break up, but this, honestly isn't the case. I know I am young, I know I will find someone else. I know this isn't the end of the world. But, me and him had a very special connection. He was my world. Is, my world. I am having a very hard time going on. I keep going back to what I miss, what i thought i knew. Now he's gone, and i dont know how to cope. i have been through some rough stuff in my life. But this one, as pathetic as it sounds, is a tough one for me. I try to maintain my dignity, i dont talk about him all the time. I just keep it to myself. It's been too long to cry and whine about it, but inside, I am silently crying just not understanding what happened.
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