Do you envy your partner? (wife, married, love, young)
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Have you ever felt like this? Or are you feeling it now maybe? Were you jealous of your partner's life, success, opportunities etc? How do you feel when he/she has something you really want? How do you deal with that?
I currently envy my gf a lot. Its the first time for me to feel like this and to be in this kind of situation. She is an american citizen and she has a lot of benefits and opportunities i can only dream of here. And I want that a lot, so i often feel jealous but i am trying to deal with that in a healthy way and not let that to stand between us. It makes me feeling really bad because we arent 'equal' and she also feels bad when i feel bad. But we are trying to deal with that until i come there again and be in a position to keep up with her.
Pedja,
Are you young by chance?? And a student? For I think that age does have a role in your question besides coming from a country that really does not have as many opportunities as there are (or were) in America.
I have many friends from Montenegro and Serbia, and two from Seriba have come to visit me, and they too saw all that you have and more than likely experienced. But, from what we talked about since their visits, I can't say that they are jealous of me really or that they feel "unequal"....but more in awe as to what my daily like is like compared to theirs. Both of them left amazed at how clean it is here, how cheap things are, how new, open and fast everything seems to be, but most importantly how "organized" it is without long lines anywhere (except the attractions) an no one having to "bribe" someone to get something done. I never got the impression that they were jealous at all. However, I have to say that they both have jobs and fairly good ones, so I think that may have played a role in their impresssion and feelings of the USA. And what is weird, is that often I am the one who is jealous of them! I love the closeness of their families; the way they treat each other in their homes; all the culture that is displayed/offered in Belgrade with seemingly never a dull moment compared to my sleepy home. I think it is just human nature to long for what we do not have, but it shouldn't become a wedge between two people.
I think both of you are so lucky in having each other and to experience the different lifestyles of each culture as there are not many couples who could claim that at all! YES, America offers a lot, but so does Montenegro with its scenery and kind-hearted people. Just think of all the possibilities of what can happen to BOTH of you TOGETHER as a couple and do not dwell on the past or what your country is lacking, for it has come a long way inself since the reign of Tito and that way of thinking. PLUS it is a NEW country trying to find its way during the worst of times economically for everyone....and that is something even your gf may have to deal with sooner or later.
At times I envy him. I always wanted to be talented at something, but I had to settle for being ordinary. I wish I had talent.
That's one of the things I can't change though. All I can do is offer him encouragement.
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