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Old 11-08-2011, 12:31 AM
 
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Recently I just started working third shift at this job I've had for over 2 yrs. It seems I have a lot of time on my hands during work. Anyway, there's a guy that works there. We've gotten to know each other. Though we don't have much in common, we get along really well. Recently he asked if I wanted to get together with him after work. Should I and does this mean he is interested or just wants to get together as friends?
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Old 11-08-2011, 06:33 AM
 
Location: St Thomas, US Virgin Islands
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Not sure what you mean when you say, "Though we don't have much in common, we get along really well" ... As far as his intentions are concerned, who knows? Whether you should or not is up to you and whether or not you want to. Easiest way is to say, "How about we grab a cup of coffee after work?" and then do exactly that and no more. Should add that if it heads in a more serious direction than a work friendship, it's generally a bad idea to date a coworker ...
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Old 11-08-2011, 06:38 AM
 
Location: Way up high
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Don't shyt where you eat
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Old 11-08-2011, 06:39 AM
 
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Don't shyt where you eat
A simply rule that keeps getting ignored and often results in job loss and unnecessary heartache. smh
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Old 11-08-2011, 06:44 AM
 
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-He--like every other good old fashioned American horndog--is trying to get into your panties.
Let him in.

If it's no good, you can at least enjoy the drama you created during your normal 8 hour shift.
Makes for good water cooler talk.
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Old 11-08-2011, 06:48 AM
 
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-He--like every other good old fashioned American horndog--is trying to get into your panties.
Let him in.

If it's no good, you can at least enjoy the drama you created during your normal 8 hour shift.
Makes for good water cooler talk.
lol @ highlighted texts
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Old 11-08-2011, 08:23 AM
 
Location: New Albany, IN
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I started that drama almost two years ago. I liked a coworker very much and everyone knew about it. I made the mistake of confiding in a manager about it! Huge mistake! Should have kept my mouth shut. People enjoyed gossiping about it, which I hate because I try to be a very quiet person. As much as I liked him, I couldn't have a relationship with him. Even though we never had a relationship, not even as friends, the tension continues. I don't regret "walking away" from him, but I do regret expressing my feelings as I did at that time. Things won't be "back to normal." He's there every night.

What I mean by this is whatever you do in your situation, and however it turns out between you and your coworker, just be ready for people to talk and speculate (no matter how subtle you think you're being) and be ready for tension/uneasiness.

I hope you don't care about your job much and you can leave it without much inconvenience. Sorry to say.
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Old 11-08-2011, 04:55 PM
 
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Okay, peeps, OP is talking about a job that does shift work...she isn't talking about damaging a long-time career here...

Go out with him.

Tonight...er...tomorrow morning, or whatever.
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Old 11-08-2011, 04:59 PM
 
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Recently I just started working third shift at this job I've had for over 2 yrs. It seems I have a lot of time on my hands during work. Anyway, there's a guy that works there. We've gotten to know each other. Though we don't have much in common, we get along really well. Recently he asked if I wanted to get together with him after work. Should I and does this mean he is interested or just wants to get together as friends?
He wants to bone you.
You could always try him out, he might be good.
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Old 11-08-2011, 05:03 PM
 
Location: Free From The Oppressive State
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Do what you want but I would advise that you follow the advice given earlier...you don't sh** where you eat. Even if it isn't a long time career, it can make your job suck while you're at it. If you don't care about your job, go ahead.
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