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Old 11-14-2011, 05:45 PM
 
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I have moved to this city and building 4 months ago and I have been working so hard since then that I did not have time to go out a lot. long story short, I met this young lady in the elevator and we chatted for few minutes about what # is your apt and how do you like it here (we live on the same floor). she said that she lives with a roommate.

I am looking to meet people and make friends in this new place and she seemed a friendly person. I am looking for a friendly way to approach her, what ideas do you have for me.

thank you in advance.

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Old 11-14-2011, 05:51 PM
 
Location: SWUS
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1. Depending on the city, cost of living could be very high. Chances are when she said "roommate" she really meant "roommate", not some secret code for a live-in boyfriend (she probably would have mentioned that if it was the case).
2. Next time you see her, just ask her if she would mind telling you where some good places to socialize are. When she mentions one that sounds interesting to you, invite her along.
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Old 11-14-2011, 05:52 PM
 
Location: Up above the world so high!
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I have moved to this city and building 4 months ago and I have been working so hard since then that I did not have time to go out a lot. long story short, I met this young lady in the elevator and we chatted for few minutes about what # is your apt and how do you like it here (we live on the same floor). she said that she lives with a roommate.

2 questions

1. when she said a roommate, could this mean a boyfriend?
2. I am looking to meet people and make friends in this new place and she seemed a friendly person. I am looking for a friendly way to approach her, what ideas do you have for me.

thank you in advance.
If the roommate were her boyfriend she would have just said "I live with my boyfriend".

Since she was friendly and obviously open to conversation, just go knock on her door and tell her you're going out for a sandwich and wanted to know if she wanted to come along - your treat. Her reaction will tell you if she's interested and/or available

Good luck.
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Old 11-14-2011, 06:12 PM
 
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Thanks JP: I think so too, I wanted to double check. I just do not know when I will meet her in the elevator again

Lovemountain: i do not think this will work, since we chatted fore 2-3 minutes and i dont even know her name
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Old 11-14-2011, 06:13 PM
 
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If the roommate were her boyfriend she would have just said "I live with my boyfriend".

Since she was friendly and obviously open to conversation, just go knock on her door and tell her you're going out for a sandwich and wanted to know if she wanted to come along - your treat. Her reaction will tell you if she's interested and/or available

Good luck.
While I'm not so sure about the knocking on her door, I think the inviting her out for something extremely low key is the right call.

In fact, I would be patient about matters and have a couple of more conversations. Then, there's nothing wrong with saying, "Hey, I'm totally new here and don't know a soul. I hope you don't get the wrong idea, but how do you feel about...."
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Old 11-14-2011, 06:24 PM
 
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While I'm not so sure about the knocking on her door, I think the inviting her out for something extremely low key is the right call.
As a single female, some guy I met once or twice knocking on my door would be unacceptable. DO NOT do that.

I would ask her if she has any suggestions for things to do on the weekends, where to meet people. I think if she's interested, she would speak up and invite you out with friends or alone.
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Old 11-14-2011, 06:32 PM
 
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Thanks JP: I think so too, I wanted to double check. I just do not know when I will meet her in the elevator again

Lovemountain: i do not think this will work, since we chatted fore 2-3 minutes and i dont even know her name
Yeah don't go knocking on her door just yet. Bad idea.

If she lives on the same floor, I'm sure you'll meet her again soon. Just keep talking to her (get her name next time) and when you feel comfortable with it, ask her out ...or seeing as how you live so close together, see if she wants to watch a movie or something at your place. Invite her roommate over too if it'll make her less nervous. You met the person you're interested in first so doing this won't kill that connection.

It's important to be comfortable asking her out because if your not, most likely it will be awkward and hurt your chances.
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Old 11-14-2011, 06:32 PM
 
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I wont knock on her door, it doesn't sound the best way to approach her after we chatted few minutes in the elevator. I think I will wait, and hopefully I will run into her again.
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Old 11-14-2011, 06:36 PM
 
Location: Tucson
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I have moved to this city and building 4 months ago and I have been working so hard since then that I did not have time to go out a lot. long story short, I met this young lady in the elevator and we chatted for few minutes about what # is your apt and how do you like it here (we live on the same floor). she said that she lives with a roommate.

2 questions

1. when she said a roommate, could this mean a boyfriend?
2. I am looking to meet people and make friends in this new place and she seemed a friendly person. I am looking for a friendly way to approach her, what ideas do you have for me.

thank you in advance.
If she told you her apt #, it's perfectly fine to find some excuse to stop by, even if it's asking for some sugar you're out of. I don't see anything wrong with inviting her to the movies and/or a bite to eat, either. Another option would be to have a little housewarming party, supposedly for neighbors , if you have nobody else to invite at this point. That would require having a few other people, though.

And no, if she didn't specify a BF, she doesn't live with a BF. As a matter of fact, she could've said that if she wanted to get rid of you. It might be a green light... Don't listen to paranoia and go ahead! She doesn't sound like a stuck-up girl. Good luck!
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Old 11-14-2011, 06:53 PM
 
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If she told you her apt #, it's perfectly fine to find some excuse to stop by, even if it's asking for some sugar you're out of. I don't see anything wrong with inviting her to the movies and/or a bite to eat, either. Another option would be to have a little housewarming party, supposedly for neighbors , if you have nobody else to invite at this point. That would require having a few other people, though.

And no, if she didn't specify a BF, she doesn't live with a BF. As a matter of fact, she could've said that if she wanted to get rid of you. It might be a green light... Don't listen to paranoia and go ahead! She doesn't sound like a stuck-up girl. Good luck!
Actually, this is a good point.

However, don't be the desperate guy. Find the pretense to drop by, borrow your cup of whatever, chit chat for three minutes and go. And if there's anything there, you'll know.
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