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There is no harm in sending him a Happy Thanksgiving text. In fact, it is a nice thing to do. Guard your heart though and don't expect a response. If you do it in this way, it will be a wonderful surprise, if he does respond. I understand your heartbreak, but please realize this...when we're very attached to someone, we have a tendency to wear blinders, where their flaws are concerned. It's entirely possible that this guy is a sh*t...that he's always been this way and he's always going to BE this way. It's entirely possible that you just never realized what a jerk he is, because he's been wearing a disguise. That's not your fault...it's his.
Thanks for the words of wisdom....but when I hear you say things like "guard your heart" and dont expect a response....It makes me want to shy away from texting him....Dunno if could take the rejection or not.....
Thanks for the words of wisdom....but when I hear you say things like "guard your heart" and dont expect a response....It makes me want to shy away from texting him....Dunno if could take the rejection or not.....
(((((((HUGS)))))) I am so sorry that today, of all days, your heart is burdened. I meant you no angst, just wanted you to be aware that, although you are a warmhearted and kind person, he may not be so. So many guys are very different than us, you know. When they're done with you...if they're not filled with hatred and loathing, they don't think of you at all. You're gone and invisible. Mind you, not ALL guys are that way, but a good many are. They do not dwell, sentimentally, in the past.
As I sit and ponder what happened....Im still perplexed at this whole situation....I know most of you say..."MOVE ON"...or "FORGET 'EM"....I did not text this man a Thanksgiving greeting...even thought I wrestled with the thought over the whole holiday.....Im am hoping maybe he will reach out before Xmas...(thinking he needed a little time to himself)...If i dont hear from him...Would you reach out to him at Christmas?......Im mean Im sorry...but gotta know something.....Was it really me saving a draft from a previous conversation with you or were you j ust looking to cease the friendship all together.....Honestly i think just being up front instead of just cutting off contact all together would have been better....for im sad and just plain dumbfounded.....It has me second-guessing myself/my actions/my feelings/etc....
As I sit and ponder what happened....Im still perplexed at this whole situation....I know most of you say..."MOVE ON"...or "FORGET 'EM"....I did not text this man a Thanksgiving greeting...even thought I wrestled with the thought over the whole holiday.....Im am hoping maybe he will reach out before Xmas...(thinking he needed a little time to himself)...If i dont hear from him...Would you reach out to him at Christmas?......Im mean Im sorry...but gotta know something.....Was it really me saving a draft from a previous conversation with you or were you j ust looking to cease the friendship all together.....Honestly i think just being up front instead of just cutting off contact all together would have been better....for im sad and just plain dumbfounded.....It has me second-guessing myself/my actions/my feelings/etc....
Sorry you're still hurting....
I've posted what I think, its your life and you do whats comfortable for you.
The writings on the wall so to speak. Move forward with your life, if he reaches out to you sometime in the future great. Accept the possibility your questions may never get answered by his response. Best Wishes
I did not text this man a Thanksgiving greeting...even thought I wrestled with the thought over the whole holiday.....Im am hoping maybe he will reach out before Xmas...(thinking he needed a little time to himself)...If i dont hear from him...Would you reach out to him at Christmas?......
As I sit and ponder what happened....Im still perplexed at this whole situation....I know most of you say..."MOVE ON"...or "FORGET 'EM"....I did not text this man a Thanksgiving greeting...even thought I wrestled with the thought over the whole holiday.....Im am hoping maybe he will reach out before Xmas...(thinking he needed a little time to himself)...If i dont hear from him...Would you reach out to him at Christmas?......Im mean Im sorry...but gotta know something.....Was it really me saving a draft from a previous conversation with you or were you j ust looking to cease the friendship all together.....Honestly i think just being up front instead of just cutting off contact all together would have been better....for im sad and just plain dumbfounded.....It has me second-guessing myself/my actions/my feelings/etc....
In regard to the bolded text above? I seriously doubt that it was just your saving a draft from a previous conversation. It was probably the excuse he was looking for and couldn't come up with anything else. He's probably moved on and is busy with his new interest. Is it downright cruel and rude? Heck yeah it is! Please move on. Do NOT allow him to control your emotions and make you feel bad about yourself.
Some people are just jerks. Some people take longer than others to reveal that about themselves. That's the tough part of relationships, you run into some crappy people and you run into real stand up people, as in life, in general. Please don't torture yourself any further about this situation. Try to move on and don't continue to try to contact him. You've already put yourself out there and he's shut you down, very rudely! Walk away and consider yourself very fortunate that you haven't invested more time in the relationship than you already have. There are many, many fish in the sea. Don't continue to saddle yourself with someone who is clearly controlling and cold. ((((hugs)))) Take care of you and move on to find happiness elsewhere.
Been seeing this guy on and off for about a year....Nothing serious between us..just good friends. Ya know someone do dinner and drinks with from time to time. Well anyway, I accidently one morning texted him something that I had saved as a draft from a previous conversation with him....(nothing incriminating)....Well to make a long story short..he got bent out of shape/ranted on and on about me saving text messages...Couldnt believe it....but then I remembered something he shared with me..(I guess sometime in his day, a female that he was messing around with saved all of his text messages and sent/showed them to his current girlfriend...My question is should I question him about it or just the let the situation go.
Im beginning to think that this was a way out for him......because the more I think about what happened...it is truly ridiculous to let something as simple as text message dissolve a friendship.....All I can say..his loss.....Not gonna reach out via text either...I mean as much as I want to...it would be just like resetting the reset button.....No how no way.Trying to stay positive though through this situation.....Just hurts like hell sometimes....
Thanks for the words of wisdom....but when I hear you say things like "guard your heart" and dont expect a response....It makes me want to shy away from texting him....Dunno if could take the rejection or not.....
I wouldn't do it, personally. He overreacted to something that was really nothing (if that makes sense) and it's on him to apologize (briefly) and reestablish communication.
Otherwise, he be gettin' nothin' from me. I don't mean that in a sexual way...I mean, the way he acted was totally confusing, he had a weird excuse...just not anything I'd want to encourage any more of by being the one to reach out.
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Please move on. Do NOT allow him to control your emotions and make you feel bad about yourself. 
I don't mean that in a sexual way...I mean, the way he acted was totally confusing, he had a weird excuse...just not anything I'd want to encourage any more of by being the one to reach out.
