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So I was at work today talking with a girl and I mentioned that I was quite sensitive in the sense that I wish for a better world and that I get tears in my eyes when watching shows such as Extreme Makeover home edition and Secret Millionaire. She started laughing and said that that was one of the reasons why she broke up with her previous boyfriend. I have always been sensitive...I actually find it hard not to be with the way this world is and with all the people who are struggling. But anyway, my question...is it a turn off to girls if a guy is sensitive? Maybe not to ALL girls, but most?
Speaking from experience (me being senstive when young, not so much now) being a sensitive man is basically ridiculed in this society.
Women want a man who CAN be sensitive, just like they like the badass that CAN beat someone up to protect her, but one who does not NEED to beat people up to justify his existence.
In short, he has to be in control of his emotions AND be in touch with them, which is where I'm at today. Like you, I am crying when, for example, Lizbeth Salander is rescued at the end of "The Girl Who Played With Fire" but I know when not to share that side of me. They mistake it for weakness. They step on it; they sleep with someone else while you pine away. No thanks.
Crying at extreme makeover and the millionaire shows is entirely different than being sensitive. That would be unattractive in a girl, much less a grown man (child).
Speaking from experience (me being senstive when young, not so much now) being a sensitive man is basically ridiculed in this society.
Women want a man who CAN be sensitive, just like they like the badass that CAN beat someone up to protect her, but one who does not NEED to beat people up to justify his existence.
In short, he has to be in control of his emotions AND be in touch with them, which is where I'm at today. Like you, I am crying when, for example, Lizbeth Salander is rescued at the end of "The Girl Who Played With Fire" but I know when not to share that side of me. They mistake it for weakness. They step on it; they sleep with someone else while you pine away. No thanks.
Scratch a "Sensitive Guy" and you get a Passive-Aggressive who will over-react and try to ruin your life for accidentally scratching him.
So I was at work today talking with a girl and I mentioned that I was quite sensitive in the sense that I wish for a better world and that I get tears in my eyes when watching shows such as Extreme Makeover home edition and Secret Millionaire. She started laughing and said that that was one of the reasons why she broke up with her previous boyfriend. I have always been sensitive...I actually find it hard not to be with the way this world is and with all the people who are struggling. But anyway, my question...is it a turn off to girls if a guy is sensitive? Maybe not to ALL girls, but most?
Don't worry. People are the way they are. If you are sensitive, you are sensitive, and that is a good thing, nothing to hide. Women who are interested in brutes, will find more than enough options out there. We don't have to match women's weird ideas of what we should be like
Some women are attracted to sensitivity, some aren't but there is a point at which that sensitivity becomes hypersensitivity or oversensitivity. It's one thing to cry when a relative or pet dies, or you lose your job, or are going through a divorce, or the birth of a child, but completely another to cry at episodes of "Extreme Makeover: Home Edition" or wishing for a better world.
Guess that what I'm trying to say is that there are acceptable levels of sensitivity for different situations. One thing I've heard from severa*women is something along the lines of "I can be emotional enough without having a man around that's as emotional or moreso than I am.*"
*wording changed to be less offensive, the actual quote would get me in a fair amount of trouble if I posted it.
Sensitivity is probably best if it is between these two extremes
"What! He cheated on you! How dare that *beep* do that to you. I always hated him. I can't believe this. I can't. I am outraged! I will never talk to him again. He is out of my life forever!"
People do react to things differently. but I don't see how easily hurt/offended people deserve to date.
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